When you do the Dumping?
When you do the Dumping?
Hi All,
I would just like a little bit more incite re the ending of a relationship with an N.
I woke up one morning – just over a month ago. I went in the shower and he had a go at me for dripping water on the floor. He then threw my dressing gown into the middle of the hall way. A few more insults were thrown my way – then I snapped.
I told him it was over, I wasn’t going on his works leaving do that night and I would be moving out. Told him I didn’t love him anymore, wished him the best and said I did not want to put up with anymore emotional abuse. For once he didn’t have a lot to say and stormed off. I think he was shocked – and not expecting it.
I followed through on my promise to him and left. This was on Friday 13th May. I got a pathetic voice mail the following Sunday saying “mumble mumble - is there any way we can move on from this?” I said no – queue the guilt trips.
Anyway I managed to get all my stuff out when he wasn’t in and have had very limited contact with him since. He sent a vicious e mail – I reply very amicably and calmly. There’s just been a couple of other mails trickle through re bills for the house etc.
Apart from that it all seems steady away – but a little bit too steady.
I did get an ‘accidental’ text sent to me about him enquiring about getting insurance for a van (he always used to try and tell me driving insurance was bull shit – and we shouldn’t be brainwashed by insurance companies into getting it!! Yet another ridiculous and irresponsible theory). The text was meant for his friend who is next to me on his phone.
Was this purely accidental? or his way of saying ‘I am lurking in the background and am very much still alive and kicking’ AGGHHH You just don’t know with them do you?
What I want to know is this:
How do they react when being dumped so suddenly? Is it a case that he knew my N supply to him was running out anyway, so was probably thinking about leaving me (D&D)?
Will he be bitter that I got in there first and bruised his ego?
Will this bitterness play on his mind – so he can justify bad mouthing me in the future?
Do they always hold a grudge? Or will he simply look for new supply? ( I really hope it’s the latter)
I know he will be saying stuff about me – I’ve accepted this and to be fair I’m not that bothered. My friends are the people that matter.
I’m just curious as to what happens to their psyche when they get dumped.
Many thanks
As soon as I saw the D&D starting...
I don't think it really matters
Well done from walking away
now, I'M feeling like the one who's a Narc...
My $.02 based on my experience
so far his only response was
Recycled
35 years
oops my bad
Fake e-mail
that's pretty much what I did
Waceat your post made me laugh
on the fake email front, that
Mine was more a "silent"
In my case, I guess it was
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Mystwoman
It's hard to say....
Hey Michelle
Yes Gerri
dont comfort yourself thats
shit when I read these I get
Fooled...
michele115
snake bite
Same guy different body!
Gerri
Mine is silent, which is fine
They do not let go
..and yes. The worse their
I dumped my Narc and he