When they finally stop hoovering, how do you feel?
When they finally stop hoovering, how do you feel?
It's been 2 and a half years since I went NC. The P/N has pretended he is friends with my husband all this time but for the last 6 months has made no attempt to contact my husband. My hubby occasionally drops in for a quick visit to the P/N's place but I've gently convinced him that the P/N is not someone I want him to associate with as he is an abuser without going into the details of what he did to me. No sense ruining my marriage over this.
So here we are. The fact the P/N has stopped contact makes me wonder and although I'm extremely happy he is no longer in our world, I see this as new behaviour from him and wonder if he is finally getting it and realizes he is toxic to us. Or is he copying me and giving us the silent treatment in retaliation?
I can't help but think he will he reach out to my husband the next time he 'needs' something?
I hate not knowing if he is done with us. Some on this board say they always come back. This worries me. If they truly think there is nothing wrong with them, and everything they do is fine, wouldn't he be continuing to call my husband?
Admittedly, I did (secretly) remove him from hubby's f.b. friend's list and think he may have seen this as a huge message from me. I just didn't want him creeping on my world. This is when he stopped contacting hubby so I don't think this is a coincidence.
So tell me, does the silence from them, concern anyone else or should I just enjoy the peace and not worry about what his next move will be?
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So far the narc only hoover
Me too Deidre
You're right Deidre
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