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#1 Jan 24 - 12PM
alicat
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Whatever!!!!

Since the hoover in November I have been in contact with my exN off and on and has been the same old crap! I spoke with Goldie and she knocked some sense back in me. I have gone NC since then. Anyway, he texts me today and says that he hopes things go well with me and that I deserve to be happy. He also said I hope one day we can be friends a and that our relationship was to toxic and dangerous. Wow! Its funny because It wasn't toxic with my ex husband and my college boyfriend! They never said the evil things that he said to me or did!!! What the hell? Is he trying to mess with my head again! Of course he is!!! I'm not falling for his pity ass shit! One day he's cussing me out and telling me i'm a whore and the next he is wishing me the best. I guess this is your classic Narc case!!!

Jan 24 - 2PM
Run4it
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You read his text

and here you are feeling like crap and yes, I think that is classic Narc crap.
Jan 24 - 12PM
Phoenix72
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Whatever!!!

Yep, that's what you have to say when it comes to these Satan's spawns!! I know how you feel, he would go from calling me a whore (when he was the one who was a whore) to telling me how special I was to him. Talk about bipolar as hell!! One time he physically drug me out of his house and then text me 5 minutes later telling me to not act like that and please come back! What a loser!!! And yes I know how it is for them to accuse us of having something wrong with us and that being the reason that the relationship never worked out! Dude, I was married to my exhusband, not him, for over 10 years. I've had relationships that have lasted from a year to several years as well. But yet these assclowns can't keep a relationship for longer than 6 months....but WE are the problem???? NO, NADA, ZERO, ZILCH, accountability!! I think he's just trying to see if he can get your attention by sending you that text. It's not to get back with you or even to be friends with you. Think about it,,how many of his ex's is he friends with?? I know mine only has one and they have a common bond, alcoholics!! All the others have told him to go to hell when he contacted them! So they just contact us and feed us that line of being friends for one reason only...to see if they can get a response out of us (doesn't matter if it's us saying yes or us cussing them out in a response).
Jan 24 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
alicat
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You got that right! I know

You got that right! I know now its just a ploy! They are so sick and are all alike! His ex is def not his friend. She won't even talk to him. She went through me when we were dating regarding their child. Just goes to show you! I can tell you he doesn't give a rats ass what happens to me or wants me to be happy! By him saying toxic relationship I know he was pinning that on me! It doesn't even matter anymore! What a loser!
Jan 24 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
Phoenix72
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Yep

The last my XN told me was for me to find someone else to go out with and to leave it alone and that I deserve better.
Jan 24 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
alicat
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mine said the same thing too

mine said the same thing too numerous times, but it never stuck with him! That's the damn roller coaster ride with them. I am finally seeing the pattern! Not falling for it again!
Jan 24 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
Phoenix72
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Well,,,

The last time we broke up, I didn't hear from him for like 2 weeks which is the longest ever, usually it's just like 2 or 3 days. It just pisses me off how he thinks that my heart has some revolving door. I don't think I will hear from him for a while this time. The only reason he contacted me after the 2 weeks was because he got pissed that his brother called me to chat.