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#1 Feb 18 - 10PM
Emmy2002
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What Will Happen??

My ex N was denied visitation from my son for 6 months. Does anyone have any idea what kind of effect this will have to his dysfunctional mind?? My therapist said he may try to commit suicide. I've been looking on line for any info, but I haven't found an answer. I figured he would just quit paying child support all together & go on with his new girlfriend. I can't picture him killing himself. He's too important & the world needs him! Lol!

Feb 19 - 7AM
Sparrow
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I love the last part of your

I love the last part of your post "he is too important and the world needs him" lol I can't stop laughing. He will most likely just step away, not concern himself and move on. You and your son will became a distant memory. Or, he will decide to take on the courts single handedly, because he believes he can.
Feb 19 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Emmy2002
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Courts

He'll take on the courts because he has mommy's money, plus she hates me!He already tried to say he & my son were suppose to have therapy sessions together a week after the judge said no visitation till my son says he wants to see his "Twister" He refuses to call him dad.
Feb 19 - 7AM
agnesmurphy17
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Denied Visitation?

I wonder what he did to be denied visitation for 6 months? Remember OJ was held civilly responsible for the murder of his wife & he had custody of his children. And if N does not see child for 6 months & starts again -- what is the effect on the child of "on again - off again" parenting? Abandonment issues. Thsi all sounds potentially damaging for the child. Is there a Guardian ad Litem assigned for the interests of the child here? None of my business really. But this is about the child, not the N. Now, N cannot just stop paying child support & go off with girlfriend. But if you want N to go away, then maybe you are in a good situation here. If N stops paying child support, let the arrears (back pay) add up. Then if N comes around again, tell him, there's a little issue of x amount of dollars. And it is contempt not to pay which can get a deadbeat dad incarcerated in some states. N may disappear rather than paying the arrears or face a contempt charge. About N. Why care what he does? Rather telling that you do care about what he will do. And, sorry, what kind of a therapist predicts a suicide of a non-patient? Even a patient? Psychopaths commit suicide when they are no longer in control of the situation. End game. Such as being on death row, etc. No hope of ever getting out of the mess. Six months non-visitation is hardly end game. It's absolutely nothing for a dude who does not even care about the child. When (which may be never, or very rarely) he even thinks about it, he may be miffed that he cannot control access to the child or you. But, sounds like he's moved on with new woman. Really, these guys do not think about you or their children when they are away. Wife & child are like genies in bottles. When N's back is turned, wife & child are in the bottle until he wants them out again for some purpose useful to him.
Feb 19 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Emmy2002
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Agnes

He was denied visitation because my son went into Judge's chambers. He wants nothing to do with his sperm donor. He is in therapy & since he has no contact with his sperm donor he is doing better. He himself had anxiety issues, but he is working them out. I have seen a major improvement in him because he doesn't have the worry of seeing him. My son would get physically ill when he knew he had to go with him for visitation. His sperm donor does not take his visitation because he is too busy with his new life. He hasn't taken him since August 2011. I did allow him to see him on Dec 28th because my son wanted to see his Uncle. When we went to do the exchange my ex N went to punch me in the back of my head. My son saw it & said he doesn't want to see him anymore. So we went to court for the order of protection & when my son talked to the judge it was decided no visitation till the N seeks therapy & my son is ready to see him. Well the N is not seeking therapy so you are right....end of game! Plus I don't want him around, just having a hard time believing some body would do this to a child. As far as wife & child, I'm happy to say I am not his wife!! Let the young 24 year old have him!! She has 3 children he can mess with. She won't know what hit her till she's completely confused, but she loves him & she will never let him go....according to a birthday card she gave the N!! Gotta love puppy love!!! As far as N not paying child support he only gives me half because new girlfriend gets less then I get for her 3. So the two decided I can only have half. As far as Child Support Enforcement they are dragging their feet & told me to get a second job!! I can go to court & fight it, but I have a mortgage payment & bills to pay to keep my home. He lives in a single wide with no bills. He chooses to keep his money & since he gets paid cash there is nothing the government can do. So yes I was hoping he would off himself so at least my son gets his Social Security checks!! That is why I was wondering what effect it would have on him not seeing his son!! Sorry I seem so cold towards the N, but he is a piece of s%#t!
Feb 18 - 11PM
needing2know
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I don't think he would commit

I don't think he would commit suicide, he has to be around to make sure your life is a living hell, he can't do that if he is dead. My first ex lost visitation, I took it from him because he was a drug abuser, so I kept the kids from him even though he has court ordered visitation, he payed child support until i did something to piss him off, but I just filed contempt charges at the court house and did my thing, he had a choice, his drugs or his children , he wasn't gonna have both , i didn't care what the court said, these are my kids and I will protect them at all cost! So if he decides to stop paying and you gave a court order , just go to child support enforcement and let them know he stopped paying, or go to the courthouse and file contempt charges, the usually have the paperwork there , you don't need an attorney to do that. Not having visitation is just gonna piss him off, because it is NOT HIS WAY any more, so just be prepared for him to go into dickhead over drive. Stand your ground and protect yourself and your child at all cost! Make sure if your child is in school the school knows he father IS NOT to take the child, give them a copy of the court order to have on file ad have them call the police if he shows up at the school. I had to do the the same thing. It is very important, these are the types that will take their own kids just to hurt their ex or soon to be ex. It is a power trip and they will do what ever they have to do to hurt you.
Feb 19 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
Emmy2002
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Contempt

My child's school has all the paper work needed. If he steps foot in school the police get called immediately. As far as filling contempt the Judge wants to reopen the divorce, even though it was a no contest divorce.It was finalized in June 2011 & any papers I gave to the ex he just threw in the backseat of his truck! I think him having this new girlfriend is causing him to fight now. She doesn't like the fact I'm getting more child support then her. I will look into filing the contempt charges, but I'm sure there is nothing I can do. I live in Arkansas & they still are back about 30 years when it comes to this stuff. We are suppose to put up with their ass backwards ways when it comes to the men!! If you don't have a beer & dinner ready when he gets home from working his part time job you suck as a wife!! LOL!!