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#1 Oct 11 - 12AM
Amiee
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What next...

Ladies, I have been amazed how accurate you have been, like you know him. I followed what you suggested and I took care of me and went to the gym for 2 hours.

During that time mind wandered...what's next? I texted him last night, "Hey", he texted me this morning "GM" I responded later with "GM 2" then no response for a while. I felt like I was being mean so I texted "How was your mother's party?" that was 11 am...no response, it is now 12:33.

He returns tomorrow. At one time I was to pick him up from Salt Lake City but he never finalized plans with me. I have scheduled appointments and am unavailable if he calls.

What's next? He will be home (which is 40 minutes form me) will he rage because I figured him out? Will he confront me? Will he sulk off and ignore me and never have contact? How long does his process take?

Oct 11 - 8AM
really
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Next?

He'll keep you dangling. And do it because he can and you are willing to dangle. You say you've 'figured him out', but your behavior is accepting of whatever he gives you. Your 'figuring him out' costs him nothing and you are hurting yourself by knowingly communicating with someone who intentionally hurts you. You need to back away from the situation, cut all contact, and then try to figure out why you would WILLINGLY involve yourself in something that continues to hurt you. You are hanging on his every move or text or lack of either. He's going to keep you teetering on the edge as long as you are willing to be there and then he'll throw it back in your face when he has the chance because he can't respect someone who would be willingly tied to him by so little. This is a horrible situation to be in, extremely painful. How long it takes depends on how long you are willing to continue in this role. It's up to you.
Oct 11 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
spinning
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Amiee, really and Hunter

are telling you the truth. What's next is entirely up to you. You can spare yourself great pain and confusion by going no contact for real right now. One minute at a time. The longer you engage in this, the harder the fall will be. Trust me. I know because I did it. I was almost, almost completely destroyed. Spare yourself this. I am at 11 months out and here to tell you that life is a grand adventure filled with joy and peace! I would never go back to that chaos and confusion for a million bucks. This is what no contact will bring you. It is liberation from pain!! He will continue to whittle away at you until there is nothing left. It will never get better, it will never be what you thought it was. What you thought it was did not exist. What you have right now is as good as it gets if you stay in it with this guy. I hope you will please consider this. You say we have been right on about everything so far. Trust that we are right on about this, too. Most sincerely, (refusing to ever be) spinning. THE DISORDERED FREAK TRIED REALLY HARD BUT HE DIDN'T AND WON'T TAKE ME DOWN!

spinning

Oct 11 - 8AM
Hunter
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What's next?? Healing Amiee,

What's next?? Healing Amiee, what he does going forward will be to hurt you..It needs to be of no concern to you. What's next ? depends on Amiee ! You said you felt bad and sent him a text!! Do you think he felt bad when he was Banging Patricia?? Amiee... NC.. Im here to tell you, you can't play with a psychopath, walk away and heal yourself! What's next?? Read, stay busy NC and detox yourself from this poison. Hunter
Oct 11 - 2AM
aceonelady
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what next...expect

Expect the Unexpected...so nothing will surprise or shock you anymore...HUGHS

Aceonelady