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what gets to me the most...what really hurts....

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#1 May 3 - 8AM
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what gets to me the most...what really hurts....

is how he made me into a villian...how this evil horrible bastard was somehow able to shift all his bullshit onto ME...and get so many people to believe it....including so many people who should have known better...and DID know better......

it's the way he smeared me....slandered me....that hurts the most of all.....
his exwife for instance....how even though he did horrible things to her long before i even knew he was alive....now somehow i am to blame for all of it....she didn't have one bad thing to say about him when he was laying there dying..but she sure found plenty bad to say about me.....

it's gone on for years....the psycho was instrumental in driving the final wedge between me and my brother....by somehow getting my brother to sympathize with HIM when he tried to murder me.......

the way he slandered me to clients...strangers...just anyone and everyone.....sometimes i would find out about it...and i'd just be so shocked.....

the first house we bought was owner financed...and because of endless screw ups with trying to move..i couldn't be there for the closing...so i gave him power of attorney to sign my name on the closing documents......

the seller lived in the same town as we did....and she always acted very strangely toward me..it was years before i found out why.....he had shown up to that closing...and announced to the seller that i was INSANE...had been locked up in mental institutions many times....and that he had complete power of attorney over me...and if i ever said he was abusing me....or that the business was mine...or anything like that...that i was to be ignored....because i was CRAZY...and he asked her to please report any 'insane behavior' on my part to her right away!!!....after that a lot of things started to come together....i had always felt like a lot of people in that little town acted strangely around me....the post office employees...some people how owned businesses around there....and when i said something about it, he told me, of course that i was CRAZY....now i wonder how many people he told i was crazy...dangerous...to be ignored or feared.....
i makes me sick...literally....to see how easy it was for him to do it...

May 3 - 9AM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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some people told me......

the seller of the house told me...YEARS after the fact.... and some people at title companies told me things he'd said about me....as well as several realtors and a couple of mortgage brokers..... so that made me wonder just how many people he smeared me to....that was just a few who came forward...... he told people i was a pathological liar.....insanely jealous of other women....a thief.....a drug addict...and even an alcoholic...i'm sure a lot of it was projection...but that doesn't even matter.... it's the way that i became a human sacrifice.... he was willing to say anything about me...do anything to me...in order to keep up his facade..... i'm getting sick again just thinking about it......
May 3 - 8AM
gullablegull (not verified)
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I feel ya.........

How did you ever find out that he said all those things? I know mine has said things about me, but I don't know what....I just know that the last year we were together, people acted so weird towards me! People whom had at all other times, been very friendly, suddenly acted as if I were invisible! I noticed it so many times, but didn't know how to bring it up to AH without seeming like a premadonna that expected people to be nice to her? Not that he took me many places, that is...but funerals, company party, etc. We were NOT social! I had given up any hopes of it. He came across to me like a homebody, and I got used to going nowhere. Little did I know.....It was all part of the isolation factor. Boy, was I ever isolated!
May 3 - 8AM
Barbara (not verified)
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smear

"If, hypothetically, delusions were believed by friends and family members, delusional individuals would likely receive important benefits, such as increased social status and respect (in the case of grandiose delusions), increased protection (in the case of paranoid delusions), or increased care and assistance (in the case of somatic delusions). "...There is considerable evidence that severe social problems are an important cause of non-bizarre delusions. Moreover, in many cultures and sub-cultures, delusional individuals are believed by friends and family members and, hence, receive many benefits. The possibility therefore exists that delusions evolved to mitigate the dangerous consequences of social failure by serving to unconsciously deceive others into providing social benefits that otherwise would not be forthcoming." - E. H. Hagen same here - far too many people BELIEVED the smear about me over the years, rather than considering the motives of the source! ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller