We're an odd bunch!

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#1 Oct 22 - 3AM
dulcinea441
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We're an odd bunch!

Anyone outside of our community would have to conclude that we are, in fact, crazy for putting up with the narc. WE know it's not healthy, so why do we do it?

Let's say two girlfriends are commiserating over their guy problems. "BFF #1" is involved with a nice, normal dude, but it just isn't working out. "BFF #2" has the very different pleasure of loving a narc:

BFF #1: I really miss my boyfriend. I know he loves me, but we just can't seem to make things work.

BFF #2: I know how you feel. I miss my narc, too. I was really good supply for him so it puzzles me why he left.

BFF #1: You miss your what? Well, anyway, we had a fight and it was painful. He cried and said he didn't know if he could commit.

BFF #2: Yeah, I was just recently D&D'd for, like, the third time. My PDI says he has NS with an OW.

BFF #1: Huh? Uh....in any case, I just can't accept that it's over. We shared something so special. We tried to get together the other night to talk, but it didn't seem to go anywhere.

BFF #2: I know, after the last hoover I've really been going through some major cog/dis. We mirrored each other well.

BFF #1 So, umm...anyway, I've been trying to move on.

BFF #2 Me, too. I've been three weeks NC.

BFF #1 WTF are you talking about? Are you describing some sort of relationship, here?

BFF #2 Oh -- didn't I tell you? I'm in love with a psychopath. There's a whole special language to describe what they do because they're not human. Not even remotely. God, I miss him.

BFF #1 ...Uh, honey, I'm going to say this in the nicest way possible...you need help.

This is our life, ladies, and it sure as hell ain't normal. When you need to invent an entirely new vocabulary to describe someone's loony behavior, you gotta know that something just isn't right with this picture!

Oct 22 - 5PM
a65703
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Haha

Most people can't relate or understand unless that have been directly affected by a Narcissist! It is definitely not a normal break-up... All I know, is NEVER again. I never want to be in a relationship with a Narcissist or someone who has Narcissistic tendencies, nor want anyone I know to ever suffer from a Narcissist! I wish I could shout to the world about these people and especially about my Ex! I was just thinking before, I wish I could warn every single girl in his proximity!! (Obviously, not possible and not going to do it, but that is how I feel and so strongly!) However, I do think I was naive, ignoring all the red flags, when women with more experience, self-esteem and just a no nonsense attitude would not put up with a Narcissist beyond a date or a few dates! I think some people have a good "bad boy" or "asshole" radar. It is debatable though.... Narcissists can lure anyone!! xx
Oct 22 - 3PM
Used
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dulicinea441

that has made me laugh...not an easy thing to do....so realy, in away we are making them SPECIAL YET AGAIN.... A WHOLE NEW WAY OF TALKING JUST FOR THEM....OMG ,I HOPE MY EXN NEVER FINDS OUT...HIS HEAD WILL BE BIGGER THAN THE INTERNET....
Oct 22 - 3PM
Syren66 (not verified)
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HAHAHAHA! that is CLASSIC!

HAHAHAHA! that is CLASSIC!
Oct 22 - 1PM
rosedewittbukater
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New vocab

Good one Dulcie! I love your posts!!!
Oct 22 - 10AM
Layla
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LMAO!

Hahhaaaaaa! So true, and so funny...........that was hilarious!!! : )) love~ Layla
Oct 22 - 9AM
Avid
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This is too funny...

OMG! I am laughing so hard. I needed this laugh this morning.
Oct 22 - 9AM
Goldie
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OMG, I cannot stop laughing

Good one Dulc, you described this so well. They make us sound completely nuts. God bless, Goldie
Oct 22 - 7AM
Sea
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Oh D!

U make me laugh so hard! I'm reading this in a gym and people are thinking i must be mad! I know being with the narc is painful nothing to laugh about but who knows what we are going thru unless u have got involved with one before. The conversation sounds like me with a friend. Thats how crazy i sound! So i kept to myself so far, pointless to say anything. Thank you so much my dear friend! Its a v intelligent post with great humour! Hugs Sumiko
Oct 22 - 6AM
JRB123
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sooo true!

Thanks for making me smile. So true! Why did we do this to ourselves? Madness! Time to see reality and learn from it and move onwards and upwards!
Oct 22 - 5AM
Journey
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Lol! This is great! What a

Lol! This is great! What a perfect perspective of the 'craziness' involved. Thanks for the chuckle :)

Journey on...