Wedding band

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#1 Nov 21 - 9AM
takingbackmylife
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Wedding band

Why is he still wearing it? Mine came off the day I announced that I was divorcing him 2 and a half weeks ago. Any ideas?

Nov 22 - 2PM
Carolyn
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My ex stole my wedding ring

My ex stole my wedding ring then told me I must have lost it. maybe your ex just likes the ring it has no meaning for him. Mine stole the ring just to play with my head. I emptied the bank accounts, closed down his economic access, divorced him quickly, went back to my maiden name, and left him with nothing but the stolen wedding ring and whatever he took with him. The wedding ring gaslighting was the last straw.
Nov 22 - 2PM (Reply to #7)
takingbackmylife
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How did you do that?

I thought you can't clean out your joint account during a divorce.
Nov 22 - 4PM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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they can

Narcs can and DO this - which is why your lawyer should have the accounts FROZEN the MINUTE You file!! malloryforest's PoultryPete started paying the girlfriend's bills out of the marital monies. ~~~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem
Nov 21 - 10AM
nhtmf
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Just had to comment on this

Just had to comment on this post.......I know 3 narcs. One a somatic and two cerebral. The two cerebral narcs, one of which is my Xn still wear their wedding bands or a ring that is similar on the "we" finger. My Xn had been divorced for over two years when we met and he was still wearing his wedding ring. I had to literally cut it off of his finger when he became so bloated from alcohol that he could not get it off any other way. (YES I DREW BLOOD) lol. Out he went to buy another ring and always wore a band on that hand. The second cerebral is going through his second divorce (age33) and still wears his ring. The somatic narc was given a wedding band by a woman he was seeing and he wore it proudly. She gave it to him so he wouldnn't cheat, HUH!!! Needless to say I was really wondering about this myself. It was an issue with me and Xn. I think they just want to "look loved". Inside I think they feel that since they can't love no one really can love them. This all goes along with their not trusting because they're not trustworthy, liars think everyone is lying, etc.
Nov 21 - 10AM
itreallyisabouthim
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Probably to make you feel

Probably to make you feel bad. Mine wore his for a long time. May still be wearing it occasionally - who knows. Or it could be some belief he has that women love a married man. May be trolling for pity/new supply.
Nov 21 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
4joys4
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ring

At the beginning, when he left me, he wore it when he was going to see me on video chat. One day he left it off, so I found it out that he was just manipulating me. I have no idea what he does now. I havent seen his face in 9 months.
Nov 21 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
Amazed
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My exN said he felt "Naked" without their ring

When my exN got divorced, he said he felt "Naked without his ring" He proceeded to tell me he would wear another ring on his right ring finger, so he wore two rings. I think he felt ashamed that he was "found out" He must have been to blame for all the turmoil in the relationship,,his ex is SO ANGRY with him (the one he has kids with) that she will not even talk to him.. she has the kids or her new husband interface with him. When they got divorced, he had nothing. I repeat, he had NOTHING except his clothes. No furniture. No cooking stuff, nothing. She sold alot of his stuff, even had his dog put to sleep. For a woman to do this to a man, tells me he must have done somthing really horrible.
Nov 21 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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no shame

I think he felt ashamed that he was "found out" Don't kid yourself. They feel NO SHAME!! When we find them out they get angry. Shame? hell no. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem