We have the POWER

What i am learning every day is that we ourselves hold our power. Not our NARC! They are trying to control and manipulate us. They can only do this if we allow them to. We are not "victims" per-say because we chose to be with these people and need to take responsibility for our part in the relationship. This is what I realize I am now grieving for and crying over. My own shame and guilt. For not leaving when I knew I should have, for not standing up for myself, for not believing in myself that I was worth and deserving of so much more. Yes what the NARC did was rape in every sense of the word. They lie, steal, cheat, abuse us and no it is not our fault we are not to blame but we need to look at why we stayed. That is on us.

Forgive yourself, love yourself and heal yourself. Give closure to yourself.

They can not take your power unless you give it. NC is our power, it is our right to protect ourselves and love ourselves enough to say I am worth and deserving of more. The Narc only has power if you let him/her.

Just a reminder to myself and all of you that I wanted to share.