Was He a Narc???

I have some distance from the end of my relationship and today. It's easy to forget a lot of what led to the feelings I had that ended it all. It's easy to forget what he did that stirred up those feelings in me. I need you ladies to tell me if you think the below are narcissistic traits:

1. We met by accident, but he pursued me and used an illegal method of getting information about me after we met (he didn't confess this until much later).

2. Idealization phase - complete with "you're the one" (in the first month), diamond earrings, etc.

3. Told me his exes were crazy and that he always did the dumping. That they always came back to tell him how wonderful he is and what fools they were.

4. Always prefaced every relationship discussion with "well, if things don't work out between us"...I always considered statements like that to be threatening and would never open up to him as a result.

5. Was very hands off when it came to my son and was hypercritical of him - my kid never liked him.

6. Never EVER stood up for me, never enforced boundaries with his mother, which of course she trampled, creating huge fights between he and I.

7. If the special occasion was at his or my families' homes, we would attend, but never attempted to celebrate anything in our own home as a family.

8. If I challenged him or he got frustrated, he would bellow at me.

9. Was persona non grata during the hard times. His life went on as usual while I was grappling with major tragedies - and then having to deal with his tantrums because I wasn't paying enough attention to him.

10. Highly jealous of others

11. Boasted a lot and exaggerated accomplishments.

12. Everything and I do mean EVERYTHING was viewed as a competition with me in his eyes.

13. Sex? All about him, ladies. And then I got to the point where I didn't want anything to do with him which of course made me "frigid"

14. Two exes came to the door during our relationship. Another called the house and when she realized he was with someone, she called him on his cell. He worked with another ex. Met a fourth at an event (whom I actually like). Got blind sided with the OW 6 months ago. That's SIX women in his life I never should have met or even heard of - and I know all of their names too. WTF. I never mentioned any of my past relationships to him in the years we were together.

That's about all I can think of for now - I feel a little nauseated. He was relatively quiet and unassuming to those on the outside of our relationship, so at times, I would feel like I was the problem, since I'm outgoing and opinionated.

Was just wondering what your take is on this?