Was anyone else dating/married to Peter Pan?

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#1 May 17 - 3PM

JMi

Was anyone else dating/married to Peter Pan?

I was!!!

Life was one big 'will/should be' as in:

Always going on about what he will do for me, what we will have, where we will live........etc

And when things weren't going well or how he wanted he always made these comments about how things SHOULD be and how we SHOULDN't be like this?!

Idealization big time i know but it was just push/pull all the time and so confusing.

Normally ran on 6-8 month rotation of love/D&D e.g. propose in July.....broke off engagement in March - re-propose in July......married in December...left in January

He always had such ideas of grandeur and he somehow feels cheated when he doesn't achieve them (even though he couldn't be arsed working for them OR someone prevented him for it OR they were completely untrue/unobtainable)

My family call him Peter Pan - his friends are all at least 5 years younger than us (28) and he surrounds himself with them when they are lesser/struggling/growing then as soon as they mature/grow/evolve he bins them off as if they have outgrown him?! He hasn't a single friend from childhood/adolescence except for ME!!

So many more things i could write

Anyone else similar experiences???

#2 May 18 - 12PM

ShaynasMommy

yup, Peter Pan

and ironically enough the OW he left me for was named Wendy. And he too had a bunch of younger guys hanging on him and living in and out of his apartment. The running joke was I wonder how Peter Pan, Wendy, and the lost boys were faring. LOL!!!!

#3 May 18 - 11AM

ifinallygotit

yes

In his 50's and acts as if in his 20's - many of his friends are in there 30's and 40's. he still hangs out at bars like we did in college - but he does it to get attention as an ex-celeb, he really does not like to drink that much - he is addicted to the attention. he was the most fun loving man I ever met (before I got to know him well and saw the depression, arrogance and huge control issues). Everyone calls him and wants to be his friend - he is great with little kids, playing with them and entertaining them - his kids love him even though he abandoned them and their mothers when they were little - he is very loving to them when he actually spends time with them (just like he was with me) but none of us play any role he what he decides to do with his time...You cannot tell how screwed up he is... I really do not know him anymore so I will soon start talking about him less..

#4 May 18 - 4AM

Qing Yuan

yup!!

7 years younger, Came form a squat. Jumped into love and marriage and babydom. now after moving out (into OW's flat) 3 wks ago he and OW are looking for house togther! All his little friemds are younger and I think this is beacuse they look up to him. Its funny really. Why do we fall for them in the first place. My ex narc came to my photogrpahy exahibtion and he looked about ten in shorts and trainers. I did not fancy him... I thought Oh god when he is not in work (in the grocery store) he looks very young. And sure enough I slept with him first date and then fell for the PP fly by night just like that!!! Next time I will never be so foolish!!! x

#5 May 18 - 12AM

It'sAllAboutMeNow (not verified)

Yes!

My exN was hin his late 30's and all of this friends were pretty much in their 20's. It was odd to me but I think it's all about not wanting to feel less than anyone. He made me feel like a queen but left me very confused at times. We woulg fight every 3-4 months and the D&D's would follow. Your situation sound similar to mine. I've questioned whether he was really an N on quite a few occasions but the so many of his characteristics point him in that direction. There is so much I could write too but I get overwhelemed with th thoughts. Thanks for posting this... It's nice to be able to relate.

#6 May 17 - 10PM

TLSM

Yesssss! Great thread JMi

Totally. And I was his Tinkerbell- made me feel like I was a pain in th arse,loved me only when he needed me, always angry with me AND HE WAS OBSESSED WITH TRYING TO STAY YOUNG AT 48. Dating a 28 year old now -he D&D me for her. Freak. Funny, I was obsessed with Peter Pan when I was a little girl. I waited for him at my bedroom window everynight to swoop me away and fly me wherever! I was positively certain he'd show up. And he never did, but I still waited. OMG! Lol! Interesting...

#7 May 17 - 8PM

HopeAgain

Peter Pan & Tigger too

I dated Peter Pan...34 years old living in his dad's house and runs a fly by night construction company that makes virtually no money. He needs to work for himself because being responsible and accountable in a real job would be impossible for him. He has no responsibilities whatsoever except for his insurance on his trucks. He has no insurance on his business or his motorcycle. He is not a licensed contractor. He also has no medical insurance. He was Tigger too because he was constantly "bouncing". I could never figure out why he had such ants in his pants to get away from me and end a date. When he stayed over it was like he was in a race to get up and jump into his truck and take off. Now I know why...he was bouncing from my house & my bed to someone else's.

#8 May 17 - 6PM

Caligirl

Yes, he had Peter Pan Syndrome bigtime

Always dreaming, but in a fantasy, unobtainable way. He also used to talk about us being kids together, even though we didn't know each other.

#9 May 17 - 4PM

Hunter

NEVER NEVER LAND!! I think I

NEVER NEVER LAND!! I think I like your family. Hunter

#10 May 17 - 5PM (Reply to #2)

Redhead1

His own Mom told me he had

His own Mom told me he had Peter Pan syndrome. I think she even told him that! He just doesnt want to grow up emotionally. He thinks it is fine to act the way he does. Everyone else is crazy. Lawd, thinking of him wears me out nowadays.

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