Wanted to Update on my Progress

OMG! You are absolutely right! However,something has happened since the last time i posted. I actually took a last peek at him on FB and I came to a realization that he has moved on. Firstly, let me say that I am a born again Christian and yes, in his absence...he did have control over my mind. The more I looked at the posting from the NGF, i realized that she is very much in love with him and that has moved on with his life and they appear to be happy??? Whether it's ficticious, lies or whatever the scenario may be between the two of them, it is apparently working for now. This was a theraputic for me because it told me that I had to move on too... I told my heart that I was happy for him that he has finally found someone to love him the was he wants to be loved. Wheter she is a victim or not is not my concern, only my well being. The point that I am making is that I had to forgive him and his family for all of the mean things that happened to me and my children. Carrying this silent desire to see him fail or "get what he deserved" only prolonged my recovery. NC only made me wonder even more about what he was doing and who the next victim would be. I realized this morning that the key to recovery is total forgiveness and to be sincerely happy for him. It is not my place to judge him or to care about the next woman being a victim or not. That is God's job and he doesn't need my help. I think more women should practice forgiveness, I know it is hard but it really works. Stop telling yourself that you are a victim but rather a survivor. I think my grandmother said it best when she said "there is someone for everybody, even a Narc". By focusing on victimization, it constantly reminded me of being a victim and i thought like a victim. I wanted to be free of this thought process so I told myself that if the Narc has moved on and he seems to be happy, what the hell is wrong with me. It took me a while to get here but the only thing that matters is that I have arrived and ready to take on the world! Thanks for all of your support, could not have done it without you. Remember, total forgiveness is the key to total recovery.