The VERY real and practical things that happen to us when we associate with narcs

This list is off the top of my head and not from any article. I need it to remind me of these real truths when I get all dreamy-eyed about my narc.

1. Many narcs are sociopathic liars and criminals. By associating with them we are not only being set up to be lied to on a consistent basis, but we are actually set up for being investigated by law enforcement, being arrested as an accomplice, losing our children to the state due to our association/accompice status, subjecting other family members and our children to investigation and arrest, and putting our children and family members in direct harms way of violence or worse due to retaliation of narc/P.

2. Most narcs are superior con-men and have conned us out of thousands or dollars, most of which will never be seen again if any ever at all.

3. In bringing the narc into association with our children, by default we are exposing our children to the likelihoods of verbal, physical, sexual and emotional abuse by the narc, resulting in indefinite years of scarring.

4. Every narc I have ever known will not use a condom, and most somatic narcs are extremely reckless and promiscuous and have a total lack of sexual hygiene, thereby raising the likelihood of our contracting one of more STD's by a great percentage. and many of these diseases will be with us for life such as Herpes, Hep B and C, AIDS, and although HPV is now rampant in the general community, it is still one of the leading causes of female reproductive cancers.

5. The same lack of sexual protection of a narc can lead to unwanted pregnancies, and many of you are married to the narc who fathered your children...would you want to bring another one of his children into this world knowing who he is?

6. By allowing the narc into our lives we run the risk of severe and debilitating anxiety and depression which has and can lead to suicide, job loss, loss of financial independence and stability, impairment of every day functioning and coping for our children, family members who may need us, and the world need at large.

4. In the case of violent narcs we may be mauled, maimed, injured for life, or murdered.

5. In associating with a narc we set ourselves up to be stalked and harassed, and this can sometimes mean our circle of friends and family may also be stalked and harassed.

6. A divorce from a Narc can result in a great deal of loss of time and especially money.