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#1 Sep 20 - 7PM
Beachcolors
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the value of our forum

Guys...as I posted last week, my N has reappeared and telling me all the right things to get me back. I have talked with him and even saw him but what is so different this time is that Im totally over it. Im not even tempted to be with him now.

I can't believe this. I felt like I was over him but still harbored some doubt as to if I would be strong enough to walk away but I did it! He is being coy and saying that Im just trying to play him and it makes me laugh so hard. We are so over.

I think I have this website to thank for my progress. I have been working on getting him out of my system but didn't truly see how far I have come until this test. Risky test I admit but now I know and I feel so strong. When he was talking talking talking i was thinking oh this reminds me of what Barbara said, or what Lisa talked about, or cupcake, or quitetude or perutoos, or baddream, nanc, thisisnotfun, james everyone here that I have talked with and gotten advise from has worked wonders....thanks so much.

Sep 20 - 8PM
quietude (not verified)
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beachcolors

Wow! That is so great to hear! I'm so glad you're at that point. I haven't spoken to or have seen mine in many months, but at the rare time I get those 'missing him' feelings, I think of what it would be like to communicate with him again, and the feeling that's most pronounced is "awkward". There is TOO MUCH I know now, so I see him in a totally different light. This helps to confirm those feelings...thanks for the post!
Sep 21 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
Marie
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Beachcolors/Quietude

Beachcolors, that is so great. It's amazing when you finally reach that point of not having feelings any longer. This happened for me a few weeks ago. I have passed a few tests to know I'm finally done as well. I no longer have to leave the supermarket because they've played some song that made me burst into tears. I'm glad you're not falling back under his spell as I had done 6 months after my initial break up. The same crap happens over but worse. Glad to hear you are moving on. Quietude I've been unfortunate and have run into my ex many times within this last week. He has a lot of stuff going on and I get the feeling he's moving away but not telling me, which is fine. I haven't gotten missing feelings for him in some time now because it's sunk in that the person I was missing doesn't exist. Awkward is right! It's actually an effort to have any kind of conversation with him and it never used to be. Like you said there is too much I know now about him I have no inclination to share anything of myself with him.
Sep 20 - 8PM
thisisnotfun
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thank you for that

I'm so proud of you. Yes, this site is so wonderful and really opens our eyes.