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ummm..wtf is this?????

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#1 Dec 27 - 5PM
blueworld
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ummm..wtf is this?????

ok i know i have been gone for awhile i havent done much posting

but this happened yesterday and im confused what it means

my ex text my friend , two of them, merry christmas.
he met them through me.
i broke up with him, went no contact after he d&d'd me and havent heard a thing since oct 7th of this year

both of my friends said they didnt respond to his christmas texts
and both of them told me he contacted them
for only knowing them for two weeks i found this odd
and also that he has their numbers still

not to mention that the one friend he thinks i am still living with since we both roomed with her, and the other is a friend of hers that is gay and we were always haninging out

Dec 28 - 9AM
Jannie In the Sun
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wtf? a Covert Hoover

I have learned that the best way to figure out a PD is through their ACTIONS not words. He might be trying the 'covert hoover', he might just be nice, but then again, is he honest? is he straight forward with thought's and feelings? Does he still mess with your head when you try to figure out his motives? Run from the hoover!
Dec 27 - 7PM
bgirl
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N contacted my DAUGHTER's

N contacted my DAUGHTER's teammates mum and said to her.....'if anything is ever said come to me first so I can clarify things.' she said what are you talking about...what do I need to clarify? Definitely loopy and he knew she would ask me....... Also has baited his wife 3 times to contact us belittling and threatening our family.....but he is using her to do his bidding....my therapists (x2) are appalled by the lengths he will go to to stir us up and illustrate that he has the power and is always the 'winner.' By far the sickest part for me is how this is all a game to him....ppl's lives are just a game......makes me want to throw up....daily.
Dec 27 - 6PM
Hunter
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Wow

Look at you guys go... Listen to these folks.. Dump the Hoover for an Eurika Hunter
Dec 28 - 9AM (Reply to #10)
Redhead
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LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

Hunter - that's funny!!!! But I wouldn't trade it for a Dirt Devil - that's probably a narc too!!!!
Dec 27 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
blueworld
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really?!

i didnt think this is what a hoover was, i most definetly didnt think he would text them merry christmas and still have thier phone numbers my female friend ignored it called me to tell me and figured it was meant to hurt me since he doesnt know i moved out and dont live there anymore. he probably thinks that i would know through them he is doing that and Not contacting me to hurt me? or something i dont understand he hung out with them all of about a month and we lived with my female friend so this is all very confusing especially since i havent gotten anything myself
Dec 27 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
Anari
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Blue, they are master

Blue, they are master manipulators he knew the numbers would come in handy one day. This is a Hoover by proxy as others have said. As hunter says they're mission is to hurt and destroy. He has hurt you with this Hoover. Made you think of him and set you back. He will destroy you. You've been awesome stay strong do not react. Or like inspector gadget you will self destruct not the message.YOU.
Dec 27 - 6PM
Anari
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Blue, he just hovered. He's

Blue, he just hovered. He's trying to get a reaction out of you. He knows this will bug you-- as it has. You're right he doesn't know them. That's the whole point! It's to irk you. Do not react not even to your friends. Stay strong.
Dec 27 - 6PM
jackguy
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hoover by proxy

and triangulation...trying to get to you through friends or trying to create drama between you and a friend in order to bolster is false self...to feed off the idea that he is the centre of people scrabbling over him my ex had a fling with someone I had had a friendship with some time after her d&d of me...it gutted me at the time and I felt really hurt I didn't break nc and went nc with the former friend and now feel that I sidestepped an attempt at hoovering
Dec 27 - 6PM
Hunter
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It's called a

It's called a Hoover... Idiots.. Hunter
Dec 28 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
NessMIA
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Hunter I wish you were in my

Hunter I wish you were in my brain 24/7.
Dec 28 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Hunter
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NessMia

Good news .. You have your own.. Put it to work.. You are winning.. Hunter
Dec 27 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
walking_on_sunshine
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Hoover by proxy, totally

Hoover by proxy, totally normal and predictable.