Two years along!
Two years along!
Just wanting to say that I'm now 2 years down the line since the last narc experience. It really does get better but yes it really does take about 2 years to get over it. It is tough but it is so worth it. I finally feel like myself again and also really do not give a crap about the narc at all!
I went NC 2 year ago and had some really tough days with hoovering experiences and him parking his car outside my house etc. I stayed strong with NC, put on my poker face but then came home and cried my eyes in privacy. I had sleepless nights, tried to keep busy with really fun stuff to distract me,exercised like mad, came on this website loads and confided in one really good friend. 2 years down the line I feel much calmer and no longer feel the need to distract myself with wild activities or exercise like crazy - I can just be me and at peace again with my thoughts. Life is normal again!
I now look back and see him with clear eyes - he was truly only all about himself. Lisa's book has exactly the right title ' It's all about him' - It really truly is. They do not give a damn about us. So to all of you struggling out there please keep going. You are worth more and life is short. Be with someone who genuinely cares about you, or adores you even - otherwise it really is not worth it. They don't change so the sooner you go NC the better. It is a great feeling to be at peace with oneself again. Life may be quiet and far less exciting but that was one roller coaster ride I'm glad to be off! Good luck everyone - it will get better but it will take some time.
Great to hear from you and
Journey on...
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Ditto, and thank you
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