Turning the script around.

I have come to the conclusion that i need to change the script.. that I need to see the positive and that I need to see the reality my way...By that I mean rather than focus on him having all these people round to his new bachelor pad .. i focus on the fact that I have just been halfway around the world by myself and had an indian adventure! while he sat at home with a bunch of aquaintances. Do you know what I mean?

I blamed myself for his disorder and am still doing this.... but at least now i recognise that and can now take action.. but its taken three months to get here!

My question is what do you do to turn around the script? See the positive and affirm yourself rather than him? At what point does he become less of a focus and you become more?

many thanks for input.

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