The TRUTH?....

50, never married, no children, most of the time that is a HUGE red flag, he either doesnt believe in ever marrying someone and hey I can respect that, but I should have looked further the man has LOTS of money never supported a wife and children, his whole life was just spent on HIM, ok so he is selfish lots of selfish men in the world, BUT BUT relationship after relationship, finally now he is 55, he is living with someone, but no ring, no marriage, said he NEVER would marry. Guess in his older age he wants to establish someone that can take care of his needs. I found out the HARD way why this man lived a life like this, turned out to be a full blown psychopath and here I thought he was just a man that had not met that special someone, what a dumb ass I was. He has had LOTS of special someones over the years and he used and abused everyone of them then dumped them to the curb when they got to be too much trouble. He hangs on to this GF because he is older now not so easy to find another partner so quick and he will have to brainwash and train her too and sometimes that can take a few years. I know exactly what he is all about now, but like I said I learned too late

Most Ns/Ps MARRY or are in longtime relationships to have a semblance of normality. My ex-Psych professor married and had kids when he was 37... so while he "took the chance" and procreated and tied the knot, I know how emotionally abusive he was! The BTK Killer was a MARRIED middle-aged man, a respectable choir leader. A LOT of middle-aged men who are single have been married several times, with kids in tow... and lots of Ns/Ps are into serial marriages/relationships. I'd be more wary of a man who has 3 ex-wives than one who hasn't married any. IMHO, from what I get here, MOST Ns/Ps marry or enter long-term relationships to look "normal." How many women on here found out about their men being on the down low? There are women here who have been married to Ns/Ps for 15-20 years. My narcissistic grandfather was married TWICE... had kids (one of them was my mother). Marriage and having kids is NO proof that a guy isn't a callous Narc, sad to say. Very sad to say.

you should stop feeling so "old" :) 30 is old? puhleeze :) then I'm an old mama 'cause I just had my first baby at 35. Looking at having a second next year. That's just the depression talking, honey. You have PLENTY of time. and once you are on the mend and find out who you are, where you are going, and what you want, and are not willing to let someone else compromise your boundaries, then you will find someone and have kids, too, if that's what you still want.