Triangulation

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#1 Feb 10 - 9AM
neverlookback
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Triangulation

So many things are rushing in my mind during this time of Total NC, its just flooding my mind some days so fast that I cant sort it out like I want to. I have OMG and Ah Ah moments like you would not believe.

WHile I know I should not try to figure everything out its human nature as your head clears to look back and see just REALLY what they did to us, and HOW they did it.

One of the many painful things he did to me was kept me jealous of his GF, if this is not an example of trying to HURT someone I dont know what is.

On THREE occasions he answered his cell phone while his GF was RIGHT THERE, telling her I was his cousin and talking to me like he had not seen me in years and was good to hear from me. One time I heard her in the background ask him, "Do you want chilli on your hotdog or not? He replied, Chilli is fine babe, the other time when I called to extend my sorrow when his mom died, he answered and said, hey are you coming for the funeral, then said, hold on a second, "hey babe, if my cousin comes from Illinois can she stay here, and I heard her say, Oh sure no problem, and another time I called He answered and said, hey we are just on our way out to dinner and I heard her in the car as they were driving.

I sat there with my mouth open in SHOCK, I didnt know what to say so I said I see that you are busy I will call you another time, then he said: We have to get together sometime its been years, you and I and my GF can go out to dinner or something. Naturally I asked him WHy the hell did you do that, and he said, what does it matter? She doesnt know!!

I think of the awful awful things this psycho did to me during the course of our so called relationship, but that was the worst he must have LOVED doing that, hearing our voices at the same time and knowing how he was conning both of us. THat was very very gut wrenching when I think back to that incident.

I hope that Bastard BURNS IN HELL for all eternity!!!!!!!

Feb 10 - 5PM
gettinbetter
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Oh geez that's horrible and

Oh geez that's horrible and so hurtful. When I was with borderline boy I was the girl friend and I would almost have an anxiety attack when his phone would ring. He would always make sure his answering machine was turned down. Sometimes I would see girls looking oddly at me. I found a letter in his room from a girl referencing me and the list goes on... but atleast he got a little payback cause about 10 years ago he got to me with my husband holding hands. The look on his face priceless. It hurt him I saw the look on his face. Now more recently he had to play second fiddle. I could tell when he found out I have been married 14 years to his string of failed relationships was just a reminder that I am normal and he is dysfunctional and that it was his fault all along.
Feb 10 - 4PM
jen79
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neverlookback

I am sorry, I had to laugh so hard reading your post, not to rediciouling your pain, but because of their unbelievable sense of entitlement. Its so unbelievable what he did, that my jaw was just laying on the floor. I hope you really never look back again. This is a son of a bitch, and yes I hope he burns in hell, the bastard.
Feb 10 - 10AM
strongerthanever
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That is so low. Hopefully

That is so low. Hopefully that was the last nail in the coffin for you. My exNarc used to sleep with a girl while in college...friends with benefits, and she would always hope he would see her differently and they would be a true couple. What he would do is hang with her a lot, sleep with her, take her on trips and in a young 20-something mind with self esteem issues, she thought they were in a relationship. And then out of the blue, she would get the call, "we need to talk" and he would tell her he is dating someone. Then because she is "just a friend" he would invite her over and then there is his new gf. She knew and he knew that they would have sex all the time and sometimes overlapping who he was dating but the gf, never knew. The gf's always thought they were "just friends". He did this to her for years. She and I are now good friends and hearing this story gave me a new outlook on his evil. These guys dont change. He was having a "friend" come over wither her family for dinner but luckily, I found out before the dinner party that they were sexually flirting via email but most likely in person and on the phone. I only caught them in email and I'm not that stupid to think it was only in that form. So, just the thought of me having dinner with a woman he has been flirting with and God only knows what else makes me sick. Walk away from this. It isn't worth your sanity and soul.
Feb 10 - 10AM
victimnomore
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neverlookback

I truly know the pain you are going through. It is unbelievable! They are very sick people and I wish they never came into our lives. Stay strong!

victimnomore

Feb 10 - 9AM
sara-smile
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Holy Crap!

Ok I thought I had heard it ALL but it just keeps getting worse and worse and worse! What in the HELL is wrong with these people! My God isn't there a pill or something we can give them? A mental hospital? ANYTHING to keep them from terrorizing people!!!! I'm sorry you went through that. Bastard! I hope they ALL rot in hell for eternity!
Feb 10 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
Hunter
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The problem is you don't

The problem is you don't catch on till it's too late!
Feb 10 - 9AM
exhausted
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Speachless!!!!

My mouth actually dropped when I read this. Are you for real??! I thought mine was bad but that is seriously fucked up! That to me is more of a confirmation that we are dealing with a real disorder here. Any person in their right mind would not even think to do something like that. He sounds like he is bored with his life and he gets his kicks out of mindfucking you, her, and who knows how many other girls. You really need to stay NC for your own sanity. Wow, I really can't believe that happened to you. Stay strong, you deserve a sane person!
Feb 10 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
neverlookback
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Ya he is a real gem alright!!!!

Seriously you need to read my post on what my counselor said about the degree of pathology some of these individuals have. Mine of course was 100% sociopath-psychopath, this is a very sick and dangerous mind to do that to someone. I do recall at work it was the first time his mask slipped during a phone conversation we had, after I hung up I started shaking and I literally fell to my knees and I remember saying OH MY GOD I dont now how to handle the pain I am feeling right now, I WANT TO DIE. THey had to take me home I think I had a TOTAL break down at that point and at that moment. No wonder I lost 30 pounds. What scares me sometimes is the huge huge scar this is going to leave even after I am recovered. Sometimes the heart can only take so much breaking. Dont worry I will NEVER contact that sick SOB again, its the detoxing that is hard right now but not even CLOSE to the hell he put me thru.
Feb 10 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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Scars heal!

Scars heal!
Feb 10 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
neverlookback
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Scars heal!

I hope you are right, because this experience really left a nasty ugly scar not one you can just put Vitamin E on, this is a huge emotional scar of ones soul. Maybe the scar will get smaller and smaller over time.