Too soon?

My exn and I have been broken up 5 months, he moved out 4 months ago. I'm in the midst of re hauling my life, enrolling in school, healthy lifestyle, leaving my current employer, I am making a leap of faith! I believe after the pain, betrayal, and loss from my previous relationship, that my strength is unwavering. I never knew my worth and strength until I felt like I had none. I've only been nc with my exn for about 3 weeks now and I still find myself thinking about him daily, almost in an anxious sense of when's the next Hoovering going to come. I find that every time I take a step forward his contact knocks me backdown. Any words of advice of how I can keep him from derailing the progress I've made. Also I can't find it in me to want to date, not even the slightest attraction to the opposite sex, I go to a counselor every week who is urging me to get out there. The idea makes my stomach turn. Should I give it a try or wait? Feel like he's still controlling me in that aspect.