Titis

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#1 May 16 - 10AM

Anonymous (not verified)

Titis

I didn't make it to church this morning,
so instead , I'd like to pass on something that we all already know, but it is confirmed by the apostle Paul.

Titus 1:15-16

15 To the pure all things are pure,
but to those that are defiled and unbelieving
nothing is pure'
but even their mind and conscience are defiled.

16 They profess to know God, but in works they deny Him,
being abominable, disobedient, and disqualified for
every good work.

I found this comforting, for my psycho is a schmooze, always doing for others, always to cover the evil. God knows.

#2 May 16 - 6PM

Amazed

I am finding what is "pure" to be right

I am finding what is pure, good, wholesome, to be right. I am not tempted by evil. I feel a greater sense of what is right, and what is wrong now. I have myself to be responsible for. There is no coinhabiting with evil. There is no sacraficing myself for evil, anymore. I gave my life to someone who I thought was my savior. My Godsend. The answer to my prayers, sent to me from God. I though my ex was to be the man of my life, the ultimate, the penultimate, the pinnacle. The one, the right, and only one. It is so shocking to discover that this 'inhuman' had deceived the bejesus out of you.

#3 May 16 - 6PM

Susan32

Faith without works is dead

My ex-N wrote about religion and Wittgenstein... still does. A friend of mine called my ex-N "the Devil" and that religion was a cover for his malice. He was using Augustine's "Confessions" (about a selfish man's conversion to Jesus) to veil his black heart. This friend of mine,Chris, was blunt in calling my ex-N evil and manipulative... and send happy wishes down his way. He got married recently!

#4 May 16 - 12PM

Scoop

My narc was always trying to

My narc was always trying to help people , going out of his way to be the good guy , it made me sick because he had not an ounce of real feeling for anyone , he did all the things for diffrent people so they wouldnt suspect he was evil . He never did anything for me , i learnt not to ask but i was still needy . ha . Pure projection he was the needy one . x

#5 May 16 - 2PM (Reply to #9)

Janet

Same here. Like to come to

Same here. Like to come to the rescue and "do good" for "folks". Helps out (once a year maybe) at this Quaker Meeting House (although is is Lutheran and talks about that a lot too). At first I thought he was an angel, just a gentle, lovely soul. um, try the devil. Peace. J

Peace. J

#6 May 16 - 1PM (Reply to #8)

Monica

Mine was a schmooz, too...

He was big into politics and schmoozed like a politician does (even though he really wasn't "anybody" in the political scene, just threw all the names around). He would "announce" when he was giving a donation to charity. Even the amount. Said it over and over and over for days on end. He also covered up his evil fairly well. To the point where his "friends" thought it was just a big joke that he lied all the time, about everything. That was funny to them. WTF?? Birds of a feather, I guess. I never asked anything of mine, either, even though he went out of his way for everyone else. That is what really gets my goad pretty badly. For gosh sakes, I was having sex with the jerk, and making him look good professionally, and yet he treated everyone else better than me, gave to them and never to me, did things for them but never for me. I know full well that the role of his "friends" was to give him an audience and stoke his massive ego. (He was a cerebral. He certainly couldn't rely on his looks for anything.) At least I have seen him for what he is. Some of them are still dangling on his hook.

#7 May 16 - 11AM

enoughalready

gullable

Thanks so much for the bible verse. I love it and it was much needed today. I always feel as if I go through spiritual warfare daily.

#8 May 16 - 11AM

ACgirl

They Pretend to be "Godlike"

Excellent quote and comment. My N always talked about God and what the bible said. He also went to Bible study class when he was in town. Because of that I always thought he must be a good guy. I never thought that this was perhaps a cover up for all his "evildoing". The other thing that "hooked" me was that before I met my N I had strayed a bit away from God. He got on my case about that and I found God again, which was great for me. So I guess because of that I always thought that I should try and help my N because someday he will see the light. Because of my love for God I thought that would be the right thing to do. Do you see my struggle and confusion? I would pray everyday and try to see if I could get an answer. But the answer should be in my heart and in his actions. The saying is "actions speak louder than words". My N spoke great words. Even two weeks ago, the last time I saw him he said..."He wanted to ask God what should be the right thing to do as to whether or not he should keep seeing me". I said to him..."I don't have to ask God, I already know in my heart that I love you". Then, two days after our date, he disappears. Even when I called him crying he waited 6 days to respond, etc. They think they are close to God, but they are not. He sent me an email two months ago saying he wanted to go to Church with me. When he says these things it makes me think that maybe he is sincere. But does he actually call me and say...."come over now so we CAN go to church". No. They are just empty words. I would love to open up these N minds and see how the matrix in their heads and the corresponding flow chart in their brains connect to God, because the God that I know wouldn't respond like that. Love is in your heart. You know it and you can feel it. I have seen what love is with people close to me. I am still struggling this morning. I am going to use today, a quiet day, and pray myself and ask God for help. My N sent me an email last week. I haven't read it. I keep struggling with should I just delete it. It is hard when you feel you still love someone in your heart, but know that you need to let them go. How much longer do we still struggle with empty words and empty promises? I hope I find the strength today to just let go....and that is what I will pray for. Thank you Gullablegul for your words of God this morning. ACgirl

#9 May 16 - 1PM (Reply to #2)

gullablegull (not verified)

ACGirl

Mine claimed "no one was closer to God than him"......... Yet, he would never add to prayer at the dinner table... and he wouldn't go to church with me. Indeed, he even seemed angry when I started going back to church, about 6 months before he left. My spiritual refreshment brings to my attention while reading The Word, how often evil is spoken of, how God hates evil, how "understanding" is hating evil............ Evil is actually largely acknowledged in the Bible, so I am dumbfounded how some people lay claim to Christ, but refuse to acknowledge the magnitude of evil in our lives? I have so many remembrances since he's gone........ and I so often ask myself, "why didn't you watch his actions instead of listening to his words?"............ Therefore my name, gullible! As the verse states though, to the pure all is pure......guess that's nothing to be ashamed of? Good luck, and stay strong. It took me about 4 months before my heart would get the message from my brain, and I still struggle with it........Listen to your heart, and watch his actions. You sound strong. Stay that way!!!

#10 May 16 - 6PM (Reply to #5)

better off

Something I found healing...

Something I found healing... was a Bible study by Beth Moore, called Breaking Free. About breaking free from whatever holds you in spiritual captivity. It follows the book of Isaiah. I had planned to attend this study right when I met the N, and ended up just sticking the workbook on the shelf, because I was too busy listening to him instead of God, thinking he was the answer to my problems. I confess that in the intensity of our relationship and the brainwashing and the deep love I felt, I put him in the place of God in my life. Here I had this unbeliever convincing me that God brought us together, and that I was the reason he now believed in a God...when he had no more interest in God than he does in French grammar. Anyway, when I was reeling in the aftermath of being thrown away by him... and finding out his true nature, I stumbled across the Beth Moore book... like it was waiting for me for when I got to that point. And it helped me very much thru the next few months, and brought me not only out of the darkness from that relationship but from some of what I had suffered through before in my life. I feel stronger now because of it. I think it might be helpful to you, GG.

#11 May 16 - 2PM (Reply to #3)

ACgirl

To The Pure...

Thanks Gullablegul. What a great verse..."To the pure, all is pure". We should be proud of ourselves for being the trusting people we are. These Ns pray on people like us. We see it every day on this website. They are the evil-smart because they know what to look for, the pure at heart. We should remain pure at heart, but to ALWAYS remember...."We will know them by their actions and not their words".

#12 May 16 - 6PM (Reply to #4)

Susan32

Shocked

I was looking in a Catholic book about sexuality and marriage,and there's a section about the "loss of spiritual virginity." It basically says that those who give their hearts, who give themselves emotionally--they are "divided in heart" (i.e. impure) and lets predators off the hook. The authors basically blame the victims of Ns for their "loss of spiritual virginity." And the predators/Ns who take advantage of the victims' emotional generosity--oh,they're not condemned at all.

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