Tipping...

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#1 Jun 28 - 11AM
rhiannon
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Tipping...

Well, I went against my better judgment this weekend and decided to spend it with my "ex-but we're still together N." Just wanted to vent about an incident that occurred on Saturday that still has me fuming.

We had just finished having lunch at a restaurant of his choosing, and I footed the bill. I really suck at quick math in my head, and asked him how much he would tip on the check. He just looked at me, shrugged his shoulders and said "you're the one tipping... figure it out." So, I grabbed my phone, calculated 20% and signed the check. The entire time I was doing this, mind you, he's craning his neck to see what I'm writing down... which was highly irritating, especially after his "figure it out" speech. So, then, on the way out he says, "how much tip did you leave?" I said, "20%, of course." He said, "well, from what I saw, you tipped wrong. That wasn't 20%. I wasn't going to leave extra, either... but, then, hey... if that's how you like to treat a good waitress, then go for it." I was so enraged. Seriously? He's going to tell me I'm WRONG after I specifically asked for his advice beforehand? I also like the way he made me out to be a "bad person" for leaving an "inadequate tip." What a jerk!!!!

Jun 29 - 12AM
Steph
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never will get it right with

never will get it right with them. reminds me of a time i was driving to his house and was running about 15minutes late....he calls my cell and asks why I am late and which route did I take. i tell him. he says why would you go that way? i say because everytime i go the other way YOU ALWAYS TELL ME IT'S LONGER AND TO GO THE THIS WAY. he says, well during this time u should have went your original way. WTF??lol
Jun 29 - 11AM (Reply to #9)
rainbow1
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staying strong78

Mine used to always yell at me and tell me to go a certain way as well. He would tell me how stupid I was for not going that way all of the time. Now he goes the way I used to get yelled at because it passes my office so he can stalk me! Ironic isnt it?

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Jun 29 - 12AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Rhiannon

Wow, unbelievable. They set us up just so they can bring us down. They feed off of it. We can do nothing right. Towards the end of my relationship, it got to the point where I honestly feel like he would take the opposite opinion or viewpoint just so we could argue and he could beat me down until I could take no more. Ah, victory for him, yet again. He loved it. Dsyenchanted is right: "The only way to beat a narc at gotcha is to refuse to play."
Jun 28 - 5PM
querida
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yep

If he put me in situations like that, I found mylsef calmly asking him questions, like "Oh, how much would you have left?" "And why that amount?" "Oh I see." Had to stay non-committal, not saying I had done something wrong or that he was wrong, because that would light him into a rage or a silent episode. Sadly, I learned quickly how to have a conversation without implicating myself in order to just have a peaceful moment of time.
Jun 28 - 2PM
NinjaGirl
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Yeah...

Next time tell him he can pay half and tip half. That's just crap.
Jun 28 - 2PM
NoNarcingZone
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Glutton for Punishment

You can't EVER get it right with a N. Starve their egos & don't ask them for anything. Not even the time! They'd lie & tell you 10 minutes earlier, just to watch you panic & run amock b/c you think you're running late for something. Then say "you should always plan ahead". I'm just saying. They're always setting you up. Neanderthals!

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Jun 28 - 1PM
rainbow1
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Well isnt it just classic?

Well isnt it just classic? They just set you up for failure every single time.

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Jun 28 - 1PM
broken23
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what a ass, if he really

what a ass, if he really cared about the tip being substantial why didnt he write it in himself.
Jun 28 - 12PM
dysenchanted
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No narc

Can resist a good game of " gotcha". Force you to make choice ,refuse to give any input,then slam your decision. The only way to beat a narc at gotcha is to refuse to play.