threating messages from him today

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#1 Jun 16 - 2PM

betty2020

threating messages from him today

so after no contact for a long time it broke today. I am just furious. I am being threatened by him over a lousy 270 dollars that he really thinks i owe him. We had an Ipass account together and we were joint on it. I left him last year and continued to pay his Ipass (forgot it was on my credit card) Paid it for 5 months. now there is a balance and he is telling me if i dont talk to him about this matter on the phone he is going to the cops to file a harassment report for emails and me putting him on the cheater exposure sites. He did this once already with the police but refused to give up the evidence of the emails because the talked about all his dirty little deeds. Are those sites legal or should i remove this. I spoke only the truth.
Also found out he has a new girlfriend that is 28 and bisexul, divorced with 2 kids that live with the father. She is now living there. Hes 41 btw (nice). I really wish she knew about him going out with this 16 year old he targeted on myspace. Guess he got the supply he was looking for. I really cant believe this is the person i spent two years of my life with. I dont even know who he is at all. I wonder if i should take him off the exposure sites so i dont have to deal with him or get in trouble. ??

#2 Jun 17 - 1PM

enoughalready

agree

I always thought that NC meant completely getting rid of anything relating to the XN. I wanted so badly to take revenge on my XN but thought, I'd rather go on w/ my life wihout any reminders or anything having to do w/ him. So- if your gut tells you to remove it, then do it. I ignored my gut instincts for years and now that I'm away from the narc spell- I listen to myself and know it's the right thing to do.

#3 Jun 16 - 10PM

almostlydia

threatening messages from him today

I agree with all the above. If you remain NO CONTACT you will probably find he will either harp on that for a while or come up with something totally new to try to get your response. Mine does it all the time and now i just look and say 'duh?' Then a week or so later he comes up with something new. Please, call the police if he shows up uninvited because you didn't respond. Mine did this when i refused to respond and because I didn't call the police he knew he had crossed that boundary and was free to do it again and again. I wish now I had after waking up in the middle of the night and finding him sitting on my bed or finding a birthday card in my purse that showed up out of nowhere because he had been in my house while i was asleep. As Lisa says 'feed the vampire'. That is the only way to free yourself. Oh, and that $270, forget it, you already paid that in your soul. We owe these guys NOTHING.

almostlydia

#4 Jun 16 - 3PM

nhtmf

I'm coming from a different

I'm coming from a different angle. I put n on one exposure site truly in hopes of letting others know that they aren't crazy. We woman should stick together, guys do it seems. If I can help just one other woman understand than that justifies the means to the end. I did not do it for revenge at all. I figured him being him forever without being capable of change was revenge in and of itself. At the end of my post I did put IMHO to cover my a$$ since him ever being diagnosed is next to impossible. Sounds like he's just after you for negative supply because, after all, any supply is great to them.

#5 Jun 16 - 2PM

betty2020

I just really feel like crap

I just really feel like crap today after this. I really need to know if this is the right thing with putting him on these exposure sites. I kinda makes me feel like it is just a revenge tactic. I really want to let people know what he is about but would they really believe me anyway? Do people really read these sites? Need some direction please. Im lost. I just want out of this mess.

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#6 Jun 16 - 2PM (Reply to #2)

AnotherPath

betty2020

Personally I take him off the site. I have a safety officer through probation assigned to me because I was high risk from him. I went through the exposure stuff a while ago because I was angry and wanted the world to know what he is. She said don't do any of that, just have nothing to do with him. Great advice, she's fab as always. The exposure stuff means you're still playing in his game. Best to get out of his game and leave well alone. Like my friend said, we all know what he is, all the people you care about and care about you know what he is you don't need to expose him. He'll have more drama along the way with his new supply, let her deal with him. Free yourself. As for him going to the police, let him, he's full of shit and trying to scare you, he won't do anything of the sort. Just leave him to his shitty life. Shut the account down if you can and get your name off anything that has to do with him.

Ending the dance

#7 Jun 17 - 5AM (Reply to #8)

grossot

hi betty2020

Girl I don't think you've done anything wrong. If it makes you feel better take down the post. Its all about you now. Speaking of exposure let me tell you a thought that crossed my mind today (I won't do it of course but it would be sooo fun) When my divorce is finally over I would love to have a billboard made with his picture ( a not so attractive one) that says his name and a picture of what he 'left for his ex-wife'): his sh*t in the commode at our marital home. That's right! He took a dump in the toilet and turned off the water knowing I would come back to get the broken and damaged items he so graciously left me. But if I did this he would get attention and I would be the crazy one. Hey- a girl can dream can't they?! http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview nolongercontrolled http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview nolongercontrolled

http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview

nolongercontrolled

#8 Jun 16 - 4PM (Reply to #7)

betty2020

thank you so much

I agree that i should just remove everything. I actually forgot about it till today. I do need to move on and leaving this on there is opening the door to negative supply being sought out by him. I am also getting bombarded by the ex wife and ex girlfriend about this new girlfriend because of her profile on Myspace. They are concerned for the children in the house. I made it clear that there was nothing i could do and if they are concerned they should contact DCFS. They think he is off his rocker but i guess he is telling them he is in love with her. LOL. Love at first sight that lasts for about 15 minutes with the N! I really dont need the drama or heartache right now. I am still trying to recover from the effects this person has created. I just want to have my life back! just called again. He is evil personified! didnt answer. hope he dont show up

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#9 Jun 16 - 3PM (Reply to #3)

Steph

I think AnotherPath is

I think AnotherPath is right. I don't really know about the legalities of exposure sites but I have wondered if a person could be sued for slander or something....if you can't prove things you write. I don't know....I guess it depends how you word things on it? I think if it's stressing you out, just remove it. Don't contact him or respond to anything further from him. Let us know how things go:)

#10 Jun 16 - 7PM (Reply to #6)

better off

It's been mentioned here

It's been mentioned here before that it's legal if it what you wrote is true (which it is in your case). But if it leads to more harassment for you and is increasing your stress, then I'd say take it down. Like the other ladies have said, remove yourself completely from anything to do with him. As far as that jerk claiming he's going to go to the police, I'd say "what time do you want me to meet you at the station?" I'm sure he won't take you up on that! What an IDIOT. Not to mention the fact, that not paying a bill is not a matter for the friggin POLICE anyway (although sex with a minor sure is). That's a small claims court case. Not that I think you want to tell him that, but the police would laugh in his face if he tried to file a report for you not paying an IPass balance. It's just another bully tactic.

#11 Jun 16 - 7PM (Reply to #4)

Lisa E. Scott

Betty

I agree with AnotherPath and StayingStrong. Remove it so you don't need to think about it anymore. That's just one more thing on your mind that relates to him. That's the last thing you need. Remove all reminders of him.

#12 Jun 16 - 9PM (Reply to #5)

hitandrun

Ditto

I agree with you all about the exposure sites. Seriously contemplated it, but realized I would still be playing his game. It is hard enough deprogramming and untangling the energetic mess he caused. For me, posting him on the sites would be like another energetic link to him. I have enough already.

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