Thoughts on moving

I HAD to have a fresh start. My teacher education program at UNM fell through;I had a brief stint at a folk art tourist trap. I left New Mexico... and I'm GLAD I did. I went back to Oregon, now I'm in California. I'm glad I left New Mexico because this is what I found out after the fact- 1)The ex-Psych prof&his girlfriend really didn't live that far from me. When the girlfriend helped him buy a house, it was within 15 minutes (or less) of me. 2)He got her pregnant around the time I left. He regarded pregnancy with disgust... and a motif of the 4 year relationship was how much he HATED children. 3)He would've engaged in major hoovering if I stayed. I got out of that chaos&drama. His parents moved in with him to raise his twins. As for me, I did the Disappearing Act. When I left for Oregon, the only people who knew.... were my friends in Colorado/Washington DC, and my roommate. I left without telling ANYONE. Not even the ex-P's colleagues knew.

SOI i can relate to how you are feeling Also from a very small town and after 11 years together we have very many mutual friends but you do learn who to trust and who not to........my friends have stuck by me and those who has remained neutral can kiss my arse coz they still think sun shines out his! - i'm guessing he's telling allsorts of stories portraying himself as the victim, he tells everyone my family forced him to marry me ( they actually leant him the money for my engagement ring when he cried poverty he never paid it back - typical!) so its a bit of a kick in teeth for them that he now says they were overbearing and controlling but whatever i know the truth! I am currently considering going to Portugal (from England) to work abroad for a while just coz i cannot stand being in such close proximity to him and OW who was a friend of mine. I just worry that i'm running away and not facing my problem? I saw them the other week and it was awful but it meant i had faced the worst?!? That doesn't mean i still don't avoid everywhere i think they may be and i have constant anxiety when i'm round our town Also feel very confused as to where to go from here?!

I haven't but I told my gorlfriend once that "moving is only geographical change, your troubles or problems will follow you" and it is so true. Plus, he will follow you to the ends of the earth if he has to. Stay strong and stay nc! You will be fine in time! :)

I haven't moved but I have considered moving overseas, interstate or to the country just to get away from it all. Where abouts do you live So over it? I live in a pretty small city so you always know people who are connected in some way. It is hard to move on when you know at any moment you could run into them and their next target. I almost had a heart attack the other day on the way to the video store when I saw a man exit who looked exactly like my ex with a tall blonde girl...realised it wasn't him, but made me realise how awful it would have been to see that and I probably will see it if I stay here.