FOR THOSE WHO FEEL SHAME

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#1 Feb 6 - 11AM
neverlookback
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FOR THOSE WHO FEEL SHAME

This infuriates me to such a degree, as I read the victims on this forum who felt "shame" for doing things they NEVER would have imagined they were capable of doing or would ever contemplate doing. I wont go into detail the SICK sexual things he wanted me to engage in because of the content, but for those who experienced this behavior WE KNOW and we dont have to elaborate. I want to keep it relatively clean so as to not offend anyone.

Psychopaths CONDITION their victims to gradually over time to accept the toxic and abusive relationship. As soon as the victim complies with one perverse request, it becomes normative. After a short while, the psychopath will demand more indecent behavior from her, once again pretending that it stems from their great and special passion. Pretty soon, the victim finds herself complicit with his abnormal behavior, sometimes even addicted to it. Not surprisingly, this technique is often used by pimps to create loyalty and submission in the women and girls they ensnare into prostitution. What begins under the guise of romantic love and passion–something that most women yearn for–ends up being what it ALWAYS WAS in reality and in the psychopath’s evil design: a form of sexual slavery. I might add even partners who have refused to engage in the psychopath’s scams, lies or sexual perversion–are poisoned by the toxic relationship if they continue to stay with him.

When I was involved with this individual not only was I harming myself, but I was also apart of his lies and deceit and his cheating, something I am NOT proud of but was blinded by the illusion. I realize in MY personal encounter as I look back he was nothing but a pimp and I was one of his many victims he wanted to turn into his personal call girl. I see how he dosed and conditioned me to further and further accept what his evil plan was for me. Giving me doses of passionate sex, pretending I was the most beautiful woman on the planet, how much we had in common. He catered to my needs, and dreams all the while professing I had qualities and virtues he admired (which was all a LIE) yet at the same time he slowly tried to destroy it all too. It was as if he was telling me, I will make you feel like a million bucks and give you what you desire if you will give me something in return. They destroy you at the SAME TIME they make you feel like they love you.

Feb 6 - 9PM
booboo35
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Sorry but the comment on

Sorry but the comment on the wrong thread!! Silly me!! lol xx

STAY STRONG!! XX

Feb 6 - 8PM
booboo35
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Hi all, I really do think my

Hi all, I really do think my ex narc is possessed by a evil spirit, When he was 12 he did the Ouija board with 3 of his friends, All 3 are dead now, through drug addictions and drink and one died of a heart attack at 38, I believe that my ex narc needs exorcising by a priest, I know this might sound like a joke but i really do think that the day he done that Ouija board is messed his life up. I do not like nothing like that, And i do believe that there are dark forces out there, Before we split i told him to go and see a priest and tell the priest what he had done when he was younger, He was having none of it, He said your the one who is crazy, I am not very religious but i do believe in God, I have a bible and sometimes i read it. There must be a god as he got me away from him! xxx

STAY STRONG!! XX

Feb 6 - 8PM (Reply to #7)
Susan32
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Dabbling with the occult

The ex-Psych professor would even rail against Buddhism. If I moved to music, he'd accuse me of being "possessed." No wonder I felt abandoned during the final D&D when a pastor friend of mine died of cancer. I really hoped that that pastor would exorcise the ex-P. I agree. Ouija boards are NOT worth messing with. They're too dangerous. The ex-P would quote the occultist Aleister Crowley (who was also a drug addict, and two of his female lovers ended up in insane asylums) His girlfriend had an "Anubis" bumper sticker. Anubis is important to occultists, but to the ancient Egyptians Anubis was revered. He was the jackal-headed god who invented mummification and judged the souls of the dead. Anubis dealt out... the consequences. The ex-P would deny an afterlife, but ANUBIS was all about the afterlife! No wonder I saw his girlfriend as bringing the consequences literally. Sometimes I'd draw a cross on the door of his office (I should've added blessed salt&holy water) When I broke NC... I sent a postcard with a pic of a mission church on it... with a cross in the picture... I even ended it with "God bless." My encounter with the ex-P over 4 years showed that I'm not cut out to be an exorcist. There's a great story in the Book of Acts in which some presumptuous young men try to perform an exorcism--they end up beaten up, naked, publicly humiliated... I can relate to that!
Feb 6 - 2PM
hedidntbreakme
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THANKS for the post...the

THANKS for the post...the whole "pimp" thing, i can definetly say, I felt he was playing that role at times, and would send me out to find men to bring home (only because he wanted to sex theM). i never did go find men and bring them home when he asked me....I would tell him, I couldn't find anyone.... he would say "BOOOOO!" hurts so bad...but everything else he wanted I DID IT. SHAMEFUL
Feb 7 - 10AM (Reply to #5)
neverlookback
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MINE DID THE SAME EXACT THING

and would send me out to find men to bring home (only because he wanted to sex theM). i never did go find men and bring them home when he asked me....I would tell him, I couldn't find anyone.. In fact mine gave me money to go out buy some drinks for others and bring a man or woman home for US he would say, ya right, so I took the money, went out bought some new shoes and told him I tried but nobody was interested, ha ha ha UNREAL. THis man tried to pimp me out for him, used my beauty, good background to attract the same to bring home for him, he wanted nothing more than to watch another man have sex with me, or two or three men be with me and he could join in. UGGGGG I am so glad its over and I threw this person to the curb, years from now I will wonder who he is hurting, destroying, cheating on, and what he is doing in his sick life, I hope he self destructs by his own accord one day and is totally ALONE
Feb 6 - 2PM
alittledark
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Exactly

He tells me I am beautiful and that I should stay in church, yet he progressively expresses more sexual perversions. He says he goes to church with his family on his off days from work on Sundays. I do believe that he is "conditioning" me, yet I want him more and more. I become someone else...it's like I look at myself through a mirror and begin to feel lots of shame and it cycles over and over and over again :( I feel so helpless and cry a lot these days. I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace. --Helen Keller

I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller

Feb 6 - 12PM
venuslovedpluto
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This is...

...what my stepdad did to me. A slight variation on theme of course but the same manipulation, conditioning, control. Sexual violation. It makes me sick thinking back on it. I'm trying very hard to deal with it because I know it's infecting my adult choices. I'm in the research phase. Thank you for your post, NLB. I'm trying to remember that not every step and facet of this disordered mess is cut and dry. His fault/her fault. My fault. It's complex, painful, so intrusively mental. I really want to heal. And I don't want to heap it all on me.
Feb 6 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
alittledark
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I find it strange that I posted

my comment before reading your comment venuslovedpluto that I used the same verb: "conditioning" as you did...that is truly what they do, they condition. I always find it so eerie that these guys are all the same and have the same affect on all of us. It's all one master plan of the great almighty Satan...that is truly what I believe because He is a lion that will devour as many as "he" can in a short time. Sorry to bring my religious views into this, but these guys are influenced by the prince of darkness....and yeah they have souls and those souls will pay a heavy price one day. I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace. --Helen Keller

I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller