Thinking of him...
Thinking of him...
I have read so many posts and stories on here. I know there isn't anything anyone can really say that hasn't already been said, but I guess I still need a supportive place to let out what I'm feeling.
It has been about 1.5 weeks I have stayed no contact. Nothing, none at all. He text me twice 1.5 weeks ago that I didn't respond to and I haven't heard a word from him since. I know that should be a good thing, but still leaves me obsessing with thoughts - what is he doing, is he with someone, does he miss me? Does he feel the great emptiness in him that I feel?
I know for certain he was an N, his own therapist has agreed, BUT I think he got trapped somewhere in between the 2 worlds, if that's possible!? I have read before that if they suffer a great enough N injury/loss/trauma that it could hit them hard enough to make them lose some of their N traits and get closer to what would be a true self with true emotional (empathy)capabilities?? I don't know if that is really true
7 years before I met him he was in a car accident with 3 other people. 1 girl died, 1 girl became permanently unable to walk, and him and the other guy (the driver) walked away from it. It was a faulty tire that caused it. They were all friends and it completely turned his world upside down. From things he has told me, I believe he was full blown N, on the far spectrum of bad before this accident. After the accident, he still holds many many N traits, but he wrestled with his own self continuously. Constant inner conflict of who he was and who he should be. He was open with everything. Sometimes hating himself for how he is and how he was with me, most of the time though he took the approach of this is just who he is and I had to accept it. And I tried so hard to accept it because when it was good, it was really good, beyond amazing. But trying to accept it and absorb all of his behaviors has nearly destroyed me
I guess I'm just rambling now... I miss him. I wonder why he is sticking to no contact and not trying to come back this time? I know any time I spend on thinking about what he is doing is time I am taking away from moving forward, but it's so so hard.
I had an appt with a psychiatrist on Monday, she started me on anti-depressant and anti-anxiety meds and I have a therapy appt, but not til 2 weeks from now. Sometimes I feel so incredibly strong, so certain this is the best thing for me to be away from him and feel so good about it, and then almost in an instant I can fall into such a low and sad place, missing him so much... Thanks so much for listening... I have been reading posts on here for almost a year and the posts have been so comforting to me sometimes during those low low times, thank you all. I'm sorry we have all suffered what we have suffered
THANK YOU!
So lost...
TexN
My N
So Lost
agnesmurphy17
He doesn't hate himself and
You are in the first stage
so lost
Broken Heart
agnesmurphy17
so lost
Nothingless
that's why it's soooo easy
so lost