Thinking of blocking N

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#1 Aug 20 - 12PM
GhostBuster
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Thinking of blocking N

I've written about this before but hope I can get some advice on a new strategy I'm thinking about. My ex N (now almost 8 months NC) only has one resource to check up on me, my company website. I check the web stats and see him there often. I'm considering filing a harrassment restraining order, but on the fence about that. It could ruin his career and he could retaliate (physically) against me ro my pet. So, I'm wondering if I should ask our IT guy to block the IP address that he's using to come into our site. Of course, he can get in other ways...use a proxy site or whatever...so it wouldn't keep him from looking. BUT it would send him a message that he's been discovered and my company (and me) wants him to stop. Kind of like changing your phone number (as I've done)...people have ways of finding out your phone number. But it sends a message: I don't want to talk to you. Would blocking his IP send a message like that or would it be giving him attention (ie, letting him know I noticed him there and it bothers me). You know, negative attention...which they will take in lieu of adoration attention. I've held off on blocking the IP because I thought it would be better to let him think I don't see him there or don't care. And I hoped he would have given up by now, but apparently he hasn't.

Aug 20 - 2PM
Barbara (not verified)
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BLOCK him

BLOCK HIM!! HAVE THE IT GUY BLOCK HIM!! Then he'd have to admit he's cyberstalking you and retaliation would prove that. Besides you can claim ignorance as to what the company did ;) http://www.ncsl.org/default.aspx?tabid=13495 HAVE HIM BLOCKED!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 20 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
GhostBuster
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Thanks!

Thanks Barbara. I'm going to do that. I'm sick of this crap. He's been to our site three times just this week. Once again, I made the mistake of thinking of him in normal brain terms...that he'd just get tired of it and go away. If only I could be a fly on the wall when he tries to punch up our website and gets the "you do not have access to this site" message. ;)
Aug 20 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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GB

When I did that to Psycho-Boy with my sites... boy was he pissed. I got emails from 'friends' saying "Hey - whats up... can't access your site..." I replied "Please tell XXXX that I will be filing cyberstalking charges in addition to the C&D I already have on himself and any of his proxies. It's very transparent to have his buddies email me to ask in a 'friendly' way what's up. Please do not do it again." WHOA!! I haven't heard a peep in almost a year now. LOL!! He'd have to admit he was cyberstalking me to get to me now - talk about BUSTED!! LOL -- go for it GB - enough is enough. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily "Some women can fake an orgasm. But some men can fake an entire relationship!" - Sharon Stone
Aug 21 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
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Green light

It's a go! I had to clear it through the owners of the company because we need to block the network he's using and doing so cuts off access to anyone in the military serving in the middle east. But, the owners were great and agreed that it's unlikely anyone in a foxhole in the middle east right now is looking to engage our services. His friends don't have my email unless they try to contact me through work. Which I don't think they'll do. I didn't know his friends all that well and well, he'd have to admit to them that he's cyberstalking me in order to get them to be his advocate...which I don't think he would. The only person who could potentially email me is his sister, but I've told her in no uncertain terms I can't have communication with her and she has honored that so far. Plus, I don't think he's want to admit cyberstalking to his family. So, hopefully this does the trick. If not, I will more seriously consider filing an HRO. Thanks for the great advice!