They don't age well.

In general, narcs age very well because they don't stress. Yes, we talk about the N rage but their emotions are shallow. Years of stress can cause healthy folks to age prematurely and break down the immune system, thereby leaving us vulnerable to disease and mental health issues. A N is not capable of empathy and compassion and they have little or no insight so their bodies are not strained by stress in the same way. They simply don't care and don't let too much get to them for any length of time. The high functioning N's have money which affords them access to good food, travel, women, sex, and anything else that goes with the "good life". They go through life causing major damage to the lives of their victims but, they simply move on once they've drained the victim, just like the energizer battery. They don't stress...they simply don't care.

I saw my first xnh for the last time about 6 months after I left him. He always had severe "extremes in weight" issues. He would vacillate wildly between weighing about 150 pounds all the way up to 350 pounds. He'd eat like a pig, get fat, and then start slamming the diet pills and exercising endlessly to get the weight all back off. He did this multiple times in the 5 years we were married. My first xnh was frequently a real "bitch on wheels" to be around partially because of this yo-yo dieting. He weighed about 350 pounds when I left. When I saw him 6 months later, he was back down to what appeared to be around the 150 range, and had obviously been spending lots of time in a tanning parlor. His hair was all gray and dead looking. His skin was just hanging off him from the rapid weight loss, and his skin had this sick looking golden brown color from the tanning booths. Of course, being the narc that he was, he to ask me, "So how do I look? Good, huh?". I presume that he was trying to make see what I was missing out on by divorcing him. I did alright. lol. I told him that he looked like a floppy-skinned, dead guy that had a sun tan. I don't think he was very amused. :) My second xnh still works at the same company as myself, so for quite some time I couldn't get away from him long enough to really see a huge difference. I can see it now that I've moved my office upstairs because of his harassment, and I don't have to look at him every day at work any longer. :) We've been divorced for a little over a year now. He's lost weight, his face looks strained and unhappy, and he seems to be aging quickly. Of course, living with that hideous P daughter of his and dealing with the huge butt loads of depth that he's incurred since he dumped me would do that, and as we all know, narcs are NEVER happy with anything anyhow. Truthfully, I have trouble actually having any sympathy for him. Whatever pain and hardship he gets, he completely deserves. Call it "poetic justice", IMO. He made my life Hell for 16 years, and now *I* am actually doing much better without him (both emotionally and health-wise). To quote Ralphie in that old movie, 'Christmas Story' when he shot the bad guys in the butt with his BB gun, "You'll get YOURS, Black Bart!" rofl.

Both of mine look great...........because they are so into only themselves. I have an idea, only after viewing Hunter video post, why there is a difference in narcs. Some are over achievers and some are bums. Mine are both handsome, successful, over achievers that make a lot of time for themselves and their appearances. Makes it harder to get over actually! Lol. (when they look like movie stars)

looks like he's about to give birth. He's expecting a keg.

mine in his late 60's have not seen for 2 1/2 years, but would love to see what he looks like, he was getting real wrinkly in the face when he up and left me and moved to another state plus big time ED problems that he never had before, he is all washed up, very depressed personality always angry, complaining, a real downer, hates everyone and everything.............never happy or smiling, his mind must be so sick and diseased, ugh

My former Narc coworker was massively obese when I first met him... he was about 250 pounds, the rare times I see him, he's pushing 400. So, the poor bike he rides on. My former Narc boss has gotten balder&skinnier. He used to joke about his bald spot... in the past few years he's lost his hair. My Narc grandmother has a bending of the spine;she's permanently hunched over. Sadly, she has Alzheimer's&is apparently trying to get a driver's license here in California. She claims that whenever men talk to her, they're hitting on her. She's paranoid about it (what's weird is that the ex-Psych prof said that during the final D&D) The ex-Psych prof is mangling the English language more, living with his parents (he used to pride himself on being a chick&dude magnet), he's gotten fatter... and at my college's website, he's giving a vacant, cross-eyed smile. Someone here said that he looks like a "fat grandpa" and he's not even 50. His teeth were badly decayed when I left. Well, the ex-P claimed *I* was making him old. *I* was the one who expressed concerns about his well-being. He went from being tan, slender, a modeling agent's wet dream... to being paunchy. I'd say "I can tell something is bothering you." Then there were classmates talking about him coming to class intoxicated...

Mine went from hot to not! Bald little gnome! Hunter

Mine is not aging well either. I think it must be Exhausting to keep up the manipulation game playing and it must take it's toll!! On a funny note: my N is 48 .... Pushing 50.... And looks like Miami vice... And we dont live anywhere close to Fla! George Hamilton suntan is not hot!!