they do NOT change... ever

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#1 Mar 21 - 7PM
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they do NOT change... ever

exNH and I have been apart for 7 years.
I keep razor sharp boundaries
last month he begged me again, to come back - I laughed in his face
he won't give me any more than the decree allows for support... not even for FOOD!
he admits no wrongdoing
the kids don't like him

Today? He calls me up and says "Because of my new position with my [one of the groups he belongs to] you're going to have to go to some dinners with me. I will give you money if you need clothes."

I just about choked. Unflippingbelievable

Mar 23 - 5PM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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how about this.......

tell him you need a completely new wardrobe...say from Ralph Lauren..in order to attend these 'events'..and then..when the times comes to go....suck down some Ipecac, vomit all over him....and he'll run for the hills....
Mar 23 - 6AM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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you HAVE to...

i almost threw up reading that....you HAVE to...everything is a command with them...i was always HAVING to do something....forgive him...pass him the salt....they never ASK for anythhing.....they bark commands..and we are to obey without question..no matter how long it's been! i'm surprised they don't buy us choke chains instead of wedding rings....
Mar 23 - 8AM (Reply to #13)
quietude (not verified)
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exactly

Geesh, I wanted to salute my ex when he was in 'command mode'! Especially when I was helping him with a project, which he usually wanted me to do, he'd make me feel guilty if I 'abandonded him', that I wasn't grateful for him doing something, that he's not appreciated...oh boo hoo! I hated being forced to sit and watch, hand him tools...I had stuff to do too, and it would screw up my schedule on the weekend. Oh well, not anymore, Mr. Bossy Britches is bossing someone else around now. Choke-chains...ain't that the sad truth!
Mar 23 - 8PM (Reply to #14)
gullablegull (not verified)
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exactly!

The tools and projects brought back horried memories! Like you have to stroke their ego and watch every effort made...because they are bending to projects below them, or because they want you to see how wonderful they are! God forbid you tell them you had something else to do? Towards the end, I would tell mine he was "fishing"...and it wasn't becomin, then go on about my business... Surprised he didn't want me to watch him wipe! Wonder why he's gone? :)
Mar 21 - 11PM
rache
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I

have razor wire around my boundaries.
Mar 23 - 6AM (Reply to #11)
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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razor wire.......

you crack me up, rache....that's what we all need, though with these assholes......razor wire and gun turrets......
Mar 21 - 10PM
ForeverLearning
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Yikes

Wow, that is VERY disturbing. He definitely is mentally unbalanced (I really want to call him insane). Hope it doesn't get any worse the older he gets. My heart always breaks for the children of these very very selfish non-humans.
Mar 21 - 8PM
quietude (not verified)
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nerve...

They give new meaning to the word NERVE! Doesn't it make you want to puke when they say, "you're going to HAVE to"? I don't know, Barbara, may be worth going and embarrassing the crap out of him...order spaghetti and slurp up each noodle one by one making as much noise as possible, pick your teeth with your fork, ya know, stuff like that...LOL!
Mar 23 - 8PM (Reply to #8)
neveragain5
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You're Going To Have To

That was the straw that broke the camel's back for me...."Come on little hottie, you're the only one that I want to have sex with so you're going to have to put up with a little sex talk". The He** I am!!!
Mar 22 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
AnotherPath
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Or wear a T-shirt that says

Or wear a T-shirt that says "my ex is a psychopath, and he's sitting to my right"

Ending the dance

Mar 22 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
The Girlfriend ...
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Love This Reply

...I want that T-Shirt!
Mar 21 - 8PM
MsVulcan500
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Wow!

So you HAVE to go to some dinners with him? I suppose that you also HAVE to act like you like him. It's unbelievable the boundary-crossing these jerks do. Like after all this time, and how he treats you and your kids, he makes a command like this and you're supposed to jump? This is a good reminder that even when you think you are in the clear, you still may not be. Don't EVER let your guard down.
Mar 21 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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yes, I know!

I made it clear I wasn't going anywhere with him. the only thing he can do is threaten to withhold financial support, which he knows I have NO FEAR of taking his ass to court about... He said, I'll just tell them you still have agorophobia. I told him 'don't you think the fact that your whole organization now KNOWS I'm disabled and most of the officers know we're divorced would make you look insane? He was pissed. Boo flippin' hoo. He still gives out MY phone number as 'ours' - I have told at least 16 people he hasn't lived there for seven years and we're divorced. The shock when I tell these people is palpable. So sad, too bad. ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 23 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
wallaby (not verified)
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Planet Narc...

Clearly this is where your alien exNH lives. And From what I'm learning about Planet Narc it is a crazy, wacky place where No means Yes and Jackass means Prince. I think on their promotional materials it says - No Soul? No Heart? Not human? Hate Reality? Planet Narc is the place for you..... You can say anything you want and saying it makes it true!
Mar 23 - 2AM (Reply to #4)
rache
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They believe

their OWN lies even.