They Do Not Care

He does not care! These three words when converted to a question of why bears an answer so profoundly simple yet so difficult to comprehend and accept. Attempting to connect with an individual that lacks empathy is a quagmire for those involved in the world of a psychopath.

Exclaiming “he doesn’t care” indicates that something is missing. Having this “feeling” about your relationship despite your significant other’s overt indications to the contrary creates a predicament. Your gut screams run and your mind directs you to stay. You find yourself in a “crazy” dilemma. My advice is you go with your gut, and this is why.

Why doesn’t he care? has a clear answer. The answer is “because he can’t.” This simple answer, in absence of a reasonable explanation, is not enough for your mind. But your gut needs no explanation. In order to resolve the issue between your mind and your gut, the best route is to explore the mind causing your internal predicament.

A great way to approach your predicament is position yourself as a third party observer. This means shutting down your emotions and observe your situation from a neutral perspective. Take yourself out of your shoes and out of the shoes of your mate.

From this neutral vantage point what do you see? Study your mate. Don’t respond to them, observe them. Notice how they react to different things. Remember, don’t judge them. Only observe. Try this for a couple of days.

What I am about to say I believe is the most important piece of information you will ever need to know about your present situation. If you achieve success in the stepping outside your situation to observe, then you have stepped into the mind of your uncaring mate. The position of a third party observer is the 24/7 perspective of a person who cannot care. They have no control over this perspective, but you do. Huge difference.

Guess what. I know exactly how you feel. A year ago if somebody gave me this same short answer I would have doubted the messenger based on their lack of understanding my situation. Honestly, I didn’t walk away. I stayed until the bitter end. This course of action resulted in my being tossed out like a piece of trash. Today I am eternally grateful for one of life’s simply profound lessons.

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