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#1 Sep 9 - 7AM
Lobo555
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THEY Are the Disordered Ones

Haven't posted in a while, but I've been lurking. :) Had a thought that I'm hoping will help you out as I hope it helps me out.

It's inevitable that I will run into CharlieSheenWinning at some point. It's been almost 6 months since I broke it off with him and he *married* brand-new supply that he'd only known for 3 weeks. I know when I see him, he'll flaunt his new, rich, tall, blonde, model-looking wife. He, like many narcs, likes to inflict pain. He's done this type of song and dance *without* my having told him it's over. So, I can't imagine what he'll have up his sleeve for me now.

I've decided what I'm going to focus on during this Close-Encounter-of-the-Worst-Kind is that no matter what he does, one thing is true: HE is disordered, I am NOT.

How does that help? I will be able to see through his actions and brush them off. The biggest injury to a narc is indifference. My reaction will be no reaction.

I'm going to be hurting and upset and traumatized and RUNNING to this board afterwards, but you know what? My panic and hurt will be temporary. All of his f'd up b.s. is just going to reaffirm that he's disordered and I'm better off without him.

While I lick my wounds and recover, he's STILL going to be the same as he always was -- disordered, mean, and hopeless. Mr. Leopard will always wear the same spots.

I will move on and, before long, be glad again to be away from him. It WILL be possible for me (and all of you) to recover. Him? Not a chance.

Happy Friday, everyone. And big hugs. Hope this helps!

Sep 9 - 1PM
Happy1
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Definitely! No reaction is

Definitely! No reaction is the ultimate BEST reaction! Good for you!
Sep 9 - 10AM
SESSY123456
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Congratulations to you! It

Congratulations to you! It takes a long time to get to that spot! I am close but still reeling from the total replacement of the new wife...
Sep 9 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
Lobo555
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Being Replaced Hurts

I'm not reeling anymore, but it still hurts. I thought I'd finally broken through to him -- we had a great trip together. Then he started the D&D and said he was still not over an old girlfriend. So, I told him in no uncertain terms it was over. Three weeks later I was replaced by a woman he got together with the day after I told him it was over. OUCH! But then again. . . do I want to be with someone who would/could do that? No. Hugs to you and good luck. It hurts, but you'll be okay whereas he won't.
Sep 9 - 10AM
spinning
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Lobo, this is outstanding!

And so very true! You are really really making such great strides...and your humor is intact and hilarious! CSW lost a real gem with you! NWW is just supply. It's doomed and we all know it. As for the 'Close Encounter of the Worst Kind,' (that's hilarious!) you are well prepared and right on. INDIFFERENCE BABY, ALL THE WAY! I wish I could be there with you to see it! Thanks for sharing this Lobo. It is right on and will help many people. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. NOT EVEN A LITTLE BIT. THE SICK FREAK IS BACK IN THE ZOO WHERE HE BELONGS AND NOT IN MY HEAD!

spinning

Sep 9 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Lobo555
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Spinning

Or should I say NOT Spinning? :) I wish you could be there to see it, too, when I give him the brush off! If he approaches me I'll say in a mildly surprised tone, "Oh. Hi. I forgot about you." And then I'll ask how a mutual guy friend is without even asking how he is. I love your sense of humor, too. Your signatures are priceless. I can't wait to report that CSW showed up in a drunken stupor on my doorstep because NWW won't take his shite anymore and that I didn't answer the door! :):):)
Sep 9 - 9AM
Sea
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Thanks for posting this on a

Thanks for posting this on a friday! I am having alot of problems with fri nites especially. It is the time i usually spend with my exN. I tried going out with friends but its unlike other days somehow my mind drift back to him and i would miss him terribly! Your post comes just at the right time to remind me he is the disordered one. I am doing the right thing NC. Whole new life ahead post N abuse!! N wont change they just continue to jump from NS to NS without hope. Hope is something we have they dont have and never will have! Hugs Sumiko
Sep 9 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Lobo555
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You're welcome

I'm glad my post helps! From now on Friday night can be the night you do something for you. Whether it's watch a favorite movie, eat somewhere good, or whatever. Friday night is treat night. F him. :) The biggest treat you can give yourself? NC! NC! NC! It gets better, I promise. You should have seen me on here after I'd just learned CSW got married. Hoo boy. Not pretty! Now I see him as a joke, a fool, and a waste of my time. Big hugs back to you! Have a great Friday night without that LOSER!
Sep 9 - 8AM
Hunter
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Yippie!!!

Yippie!!!
Sep 9 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
Lobo555
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High five! :)

High five! :)