There is life after a narc, Im living proof

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#1 Jun 29 - 9AM
jaycee
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There is life after a narc, Im living proof

sorry i have not been on, ive moved on but not forgotten my friends here. life is so beautiful right now, i actually am living proof there is life after a narc. twenty six years of hell has paved the road to love, respect laughter and utter happieness. my friend has asked me to marry him, and i accepted, so next year we will be married in Rome and spend the rest of our lives together making each other laugh, having a life of respect and love for one another. I love this man, not only for saving me, but for showing me that not all men are horrible, i also love him because he totally rocks my world in every sense, i dont even think of my hN any longer dont care what he does who he is etc......i am actually having him buy me out of the house and allowing him to move his ow in here with her child, she can live with my ghosts, she wanted my life, she got it, too bad shes never heard the expression, be very careful of what you wish for, it may come true. we ended our life together with me in the hospital with broken ribs, a lacerated liver a fat lip and bruises up and down my body, that was the last time the narc will ever see me again. dont care if he continues his rage with her, but he will never continue it with me. im fine now, more than fine, there are no scars left for me to cry over, my love and future husband has made sure of that, and continues to make me laugh fourteen hours a day, and treats me with such respect it has become what i will now deem for the rest of my life. i pray all of you find this and understand if jaycee can do this anyone can, if it happened to me, it will happen to you all.........i promise....i will check in from time to time and let you know how happy i will continue to be.......i miss everyone, but certainly dont mind torturing all of you with my obsession, that no longer exists.......i am truly and completely happy now everyday of my life and will continue to be...much love, jaycee

Jul 6 - 10AM
Susan32
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Good for you!

Jaycee, you've blossomed. You're like the butterfly that has emerged from the cocoon. It's great to see the changes you've made in your life. You escaped that hell hole, thank God.
Jul 6 - 10AM
WellRed
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Jaycee - So happy to hear

Jaycee - So happy to hear your future plans. I remember when you first posted about going out on a lunch date with this man. You were timid yet excited. I am glad you are finding a new life for yourself and plan to spend it with a man who shows you love and respect!!
Jun 30 - 9AM
jaycee
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I am truly wishing everyone a life of love, happiness & respect

Glad you all read my post, I am thriving and doing well. I am also with a man who not only loves, respects, and makes me happy, but is a man who is an intellect who believes I should get what I deserve for my years of pain and suffering, so he is filled with wonderful advice, and one hell of lawyer who's coaching me as to whether or not mine is doing the right thing......I want the narc to be gone completely, but I will get what is rightfully mine. as for my daughter, she is still enamoured with her dad, but my son, he's all about me and is soooooo happy for me and for my new man. My daughter is still caught up in that cycle of abuse, but I know in my heart she will wake up and realize I broke the cycle and she will someday, as well.......much love to my friends, I think of all of you each and everyday........xoxo jaycee

Jaycee

Jun 29 - 7PM
Redhead1
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Jaycee, I am so happy for

Jaycee, I am so happy for you. You deserve it!
Jun 29 - 12PM
FreedomJane
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Beautiful!

Thank you for sending this inspiration as I am recently recovering from a nightmare. It gives me so much hope. I wish you the best always! Jane
Jun 29 - 10AM
truetotruth
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Jaycee

Bless you..... may you live in the light and happiness for the rest of your years. Thank you for this. I know everyone here needed to hear it. Congratulations Survivor and now Living !
Jun 29 - 9AM
wisdomneeded
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Many blessings to you Jacee! Remembering your friends on this forum and posting does give hope to everyone who reads this. "my obsession, that no longer exists..." I LOVE THIS..... WOOT WOOT!
Jun 29 - 9AM
empath
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jaycee

Jaycee, I had tears welling up in my eyes from reading your update. That is such wonderful news and so inspiring! God bless you in your new life with a man who loves and respects you. I wish that sweetness for each and every one of us here. (((hugs)))
Jun 29 - 9AM
Used
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jaycee

WHAT CAN I SAY? YOU SOUND BRILLIANT...AND YOU DESERVE EVERY BIT OF HAPPINESS....GOOD WILL OUT...MY MESSAGE TO YOU IS THRIVE AND PROSPER ALL OF YOUR DAYS.....LOVE USEDXXX
Jun 29 - 9AM
jen79
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Jaycee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG!!!!!! I am speachless! You give me hope, I remember the despair and horror pain you were in! My god, and now look at you! You deserve it so much jaycee! I am so happy for you!
Jun 29 - 9AM
dudette
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Jaycee

I was on the phone to a buddy member last night and we were wondering about you! This is wonderful news!!! Many congratulations indeed, I am so glad that light is shining for you. Love and many blessings Dx
Jun 29 - 9AM
Deidre40
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omg, jaycee...what WONDERFUL

omg, jaycee...what WONDERFUL news!!!! I have tears in my eyes as I read this. I am grateful God has blessed you so. There is life after these men. Definitely. We just have to go through the healing process. Takes time. Some pain and tears. But, when we come out on the other side, life is so beautiful. It's like we were living our life in grey, and when the narcs are gone...we now live in COLOR. :=)
Jun 29 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
loveyourselffirst
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I was also wondering about you

I figured that since you weren't posting, that you must be doing ok. I'm so happy that you are more than ok - it gives all of us hope for the future. I am looking forward to the day that I also wont obssess about the OW. For now I am still impatient for her to see the real him. All the best to you and your new fiance!!