It's been a while since I've stopped by - and I wanted to share an experience and to encourage everyone.
While going about my normal daily business, I came across a tweet from my narc while doing a search on twitter. He tweeted that "upon reflection, people don't put enough time and energy into their relationships".
(Mirror mirror - talking to himself although he doesn't realize it). (And time for me to block him somehow so I don;t ever run into him again on twitter)
And he was addressing it to his next target - a beautiful women with lots of cash (as he openly thanked her for her "friendship" and calling her "hot"). Really pushed my buttons because I let it!)
He's about to declare bankruptcy from what I hear on the QT. Is being sued and will most likely have more lawsuits because he's screwed so many.
This women - What a great find for him! I hope the best for her and that she reads the tea leaves carefully. Like most, she doesn't see him as he truly is yet.
What stung is that I offered him friendship and support, we all did. But, like a narc, he's closed the door to all of us with D&D and is now moving on in true narc fashion...all the while giving people hope that he will repay the hundreds of thousands he owes everyone.....I truly hope he keeps that promise - but only time will tell.
So my point is - it is a cycle - THEIR cycle. To constantly find new people without apology and feeling quite justified. Not enough energy into friendships? Pahleeze!!
The only thing that stopped me from a true tail spin was relistening to videos and audios from an expert in narcs - to remind myself of who they are and how they are.....so I can get back on track and not waste one more second of my precious time on this person.
And I want the same for all of you. NO CONTACT truly works. YOU can do this - for YOU. You deserve better in your life. Do what ever it takes to restore your sanity and learn about these people so you can avoid them at all costs in the future.
Educate yourself. Read. Participate. Get into therapy / support groups. Forums like this one (Thx Lisa and Betty and anyone else behind the scenes).
Be proactive with your life!
Merry Christmas everyone. Cheers to a NARC FREE NEW YEAR !!! TM GIJ lol