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#1 Dec 11 - 4PM
Alisa
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Thank you

This board has saved me, seriously.

I emailed ExN tonight to end all contact for good and then go NC. I basically told him a friendship between me and him wouldn't work for me.

What followed was the most disgusting, fake email from him (it reminded me of his attempts to get me back last year)
Blah blah blah thank you for the wonderful time we spent together blah blah blah I have learned so much from you... blah blah blah sorry that I hurt you (wow! the first time I heard a sorry from him, except now I know it's fake!)

Seriously, if it wasn't for the things I have learned on this board chances would be high that I'd give him another chance, really. Because he said all the things that I would have wanted him to say 10 months ago.

I feel like I'm gonna throw up. He's disgusting.
Done with him. Done.

Dec 11 - 10PM
ReclaimingPower
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:)

Oh I so hear you! When I did the same, I got back a note saying he understands and he will always be there if I need a friend. That he really enjoyed talking to me -- totally negating all of the time and physical aspect of us being together. I wanted to scream FU....but instead sent back the final reply that said we will never be friends and don't ever contact me again. He didn't reply thankfully -- until the hoovering started as though no note or end ever happened. Brain dead supply junkie. Be sure to block him now though, because he WILL hoover when he sees you are serious as time goes on and seeing his damn name float in your phone or email is going to stab you like a knife wound. When he gets the restricted message back (and you can smile yourself to sleep imagining his reaction), he will be horrified that any woman would have the strength and desire to really do that to him. YOU be that girl. Congrats!!!!!!!!!!
Dec 11 - 10PM (Reply to #9)
uk lady
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Mine did the same

When I did the same, I got back a note saying he understands and he will always be there if I need a friend. That he really enjoyed talking to me -- totally negating all of the time and physical aspect of us being together. I wanted to scream FU....but instead sent back the final reply that said we will never be friends and don't ever contact me again. He didn't reply thankfully -- until the hoovering started as though no note or end ever happened. Brain dead supply junkie. RP does your ex's name start with P? Because mine said exactly the same. Template city. Why the hell would they think we would want to be friends with them? And yes, no reference in future communication that previous email had ever existed either. WTF??? Dee x
Dec 12 - 6AM (Reply to #10)
Winter
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Uk Lady

Are you sure your exn's name starts with P and not with S? lol
Dec 11 - 10PM
Im_always_fine
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Somewhere, there's a factory

Somewhere, there's a factory where they clone these guys and down load them with the same program. They are all the same sh!t...different pile.
Dec 11 - 10PM (Reply to #7)
ReclaimingPower
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Haaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!

I love it! You made me laugh out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dec 11 - 5PM
Journey
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Good for you Alisa! So glad

Good for you Alisa! So glad you are seeing through the false 'friendship' and realizing it is not in your best interest to pretend it exists any more. I just answered your question in your other thread about this and I am happy for your clarity now. Truly a breakthrough!! :)

Journey on...

Dec 11 - 4PM
Layla
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How they talk to us.........

..when they are on the "outs" sure is different than the nasty way they talk to us and treat us when they are "in"....funny, isn't it? They are such con artists and liars. Good for you Alisa! I am proud of your strength today. You're a WINNER! love~ Layla
Dec 11 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
Alisa
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I know, right? I think that's

I know, right? I think that's what I find most disgusting right now - his ability to say all these nice things just like that. Makes me wonder if he has a template that he sends to all his exes, lol.
Dec 11 - 9PM (Reply to #3)
uk lady
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Absolutely Alisa

My ex's template would have had lots of : "It was never my intention" to do blah, blah, blah. Right matey, if it was never your intention to do this, that or the other, then why do it? This is the phrase that I will identify with him for the rest of my life. ROFL. A life full of intention, is a life not lived. Well done Alisa - you are so on the path forward now to a happier future without him. Dee x
Dec 12 - 12AM (Reply to #4)
Alisa
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"It was never my intention"

"It was never my intention" made me laugh out loud because those were my narc's exact words in his email (except not in English) And yes, I had the same thoughts about it - why did he do it in the first place? He fully knew what he was doing at the time 10 months ago