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#1 Aug 27 - 10PM
gettinbetter
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texting

Is it my imagination or do they seem to only like to text? One day the freak stopped talking to me on the phone and would only text. Red flag! Red flag! Has anyone else noticed that. Wth is that all about?

Aug 28 - 9PM
aceonelady
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re texting

Well mine bought a bluetooth ear piece and wanted me calling him at work(he was a carpenter and did make ready at housing apartments)called me after work for hours,and wanted me calling him in the morning to wake him up,and he said,baby i wish i could sleep with my ear piece so i would have the feeling you were here sleeping with me.....this went on for 2 years daily....when he still was living with the mother of his children, he would go sit in his car at the park to talk to me after work...never missed a day...and if i didn't answer he would send a gmail to my cell....me in Holland he in Tulsa....never texted,even when his sion texted he hated...

Aceonelady

Aug 28 - 8PM
gettinbetter
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ya know....

I really have wanted to believe that he isnt an N but the more I come here the more I see he is. When you see the similiarities in all of the stories you realize that these people really are sick. It is an illness and these are symptoms but there is no cure. They are radioactive and if you are near them you will be poisioned. But I must ask really what is it about them not talking on the phone? so freakin weird!
Aug 28 - 12AM
alma25
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texting, texting, tecting

never talking, hated talking on the phone, hated talking in general. When I was calling, he didn't pick up, just texted, sometimes after a few day, or a week. When I wanted to talk to him after the 4 D&D about what was hapenning,after a few days I received a message with a question: could you please send me your ideas about our relationship, (can be in email) to let me make decision.BIG RED FLAG!
Aug 28 - 12PM (Reply to #12)
cluelessuntilnow
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alma25

"could you please send me your ideas, (thoughts) about xxx (can be in email)" is almost a direct quote from my exN. WTF? Do these guys have a playbook?
Aug 28 - 8AM (Reply to #11)
Used
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texting

all the time ,texted me all day once,he also used to say i only text you, then we would be out and a woman would come up and say thanks for texting, he would say[when they were gone. she texted me i just answered. i stopped answering, and he took phonecalls while i was with him, saying hallo mate, then saying it was a man, but as the friendship became deeper,haha, he would meet me and make a big show in front of me ,of turning off his phone[ so to placate me, after me saying if you text once more i am going, he would then at regular intervals go to the lavatory [me saying have you got bladder trouble] and when he came back out after 10minutes, i would say, been texting. a big day for me was went he went to tiolet again and left his PHONE on table, came back, popped into a shop and still left PHONE, i never touched it or said a word. wasent he trusting. lol. when i was going off him, i gave him a time limit when he went tiolet, i said 5minutes or ime gone. i went, he didnt do it again, it turned out when he was biegn age,s in tiolet, he didnt sometimes go, he was staring out of the window watching if i talked to anyone while he was gone. obbssed is how he became with me., and given his behavior even now after me biegn nc for 10 1/2 mnths, he still is. on a good day i call my self the one that got away.
Aug 28 - 12AM
M
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familiar

My xN husband would text during dinner @ home--ignoring me & daughter. I read his texts one morning--& found flirtatious texts to other women. I called him on it--he accused me of invading his privacy!!! We were married!!
Aug 27 - 11PM
miinx
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sounds so familiar..

mine used to call constantly when i was his number one source of supply. however, i remember him and the texting.. going out to dinner with him, his nose buried in text messages. at the movies, hes texting, sitting on the couch.. texting. and if i asked who it was or asked to see it? oh boy.. MEGA territorial. it bothered me so much that i would try to have a nice evening with him, and he would rather sit and text people. he was texting his ex and other secondary sources of supply the whole time - i found this out after i read his text history while he was sleeping one night and found the motherlode of cheating plans, flirting, and vile sex texts. of course, he went into a horrible rage, called me crazy, told me i had seen nothing, and threatened me. after that, the phone was password locked at all times, and he continued to text. once i left for good and he found his newest supply, the calls stopped. he refused to answer phonecalls but would text ALL day. he only calls when he feels like he won't get caught - like when he drunk dialed me on a business trip, or called me on his way home from dropping off his new girlfriend. he will NEVER answer a phonecall - only calls back on his own terms, or texts. its pretty clear the same thing is happening to the new woman that happened with me. i saw a photo of them crop up on facebook several months back at the girls birthday party.. she is with her friends, having fun, dancing. narc is sitting in the corner with his nose buried in his phone, texting away. shocking.
Aug 27 - 11PM (Reply to #8)
cluelessuntilnow
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Miinx-

So familiar- will not answer the phone call then text to ask what I wanted.
Aug 27 - 10PM
cluelessuntilnow
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nls

Your story seems similar to mine. I have been reading your posts and have not commented on them til now. If you feel like it read my story, you will see what I mean. My exN loves texting or should I say loved ( his wife busted him texting a friend of hers and now monitors his texts). He won't text anymore because "it leaves a trail". Has switched to e-mail. Anyway, I read this as when things are good they can flirt and get their attention easily. When things go bad they can D&D easily and hide behind texts. My exN hates talking to me at the moment because I call him on all of his games, lies, and actually will not take his crap. I would like to say that the only reason I am not NC with him at the moment is because of our child. If it makes you feel any better my exN has several times told me " we don't need to talk". He would prefer not to talk, because I guess at the end of the day a conversation is harder to control and they are all about control. Also texts and e-mail are dehumanizing so it is easier to behave badly.
Aug 28 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
gettinbetter
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Oh gosh clueless. I read

Oh gosh clueless. I read your story. It brought tears to my eyes because it was painfully familiar. I would like to speak with you off line. Is there anyway I could contact you (email or phone) maybe thru the moderator Betty. 15 years and these people come back to rip your heart out. Oh and btw read my post Ground Hog Day. If it makes you feel any better.. I sometimes believe they do have some limited feelings for us on occasion but they know how it will play out.
Aug 28 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
cluelessuntilnow
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nls- I almost asked you the same thing after reading your posts

Maybe Betty can arrange for an e-mail exchange? When I read your posts my heart ached, I thought oh my gosh I can't believe it is happening to someone else. I think we are close to the same age as well.
Aug 28 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
gettinbetter
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tough to act..

like everything is just peachy keene in front of the family huh? That alone is almost exhausting in and of itself. Trust me you will freak when you hear the rest of the similarities between us. Do you mind me asking how did he find you?
Aug 28 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
gettinbetter
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yes. I cried when I read

yes. I cried when I read your story. Finally someone who knew what it felt like to have the someone you loved so dearly who treated you so badly pop back into your life after 15 freakin years. My N said this whole thing reminded him of when Tom Hanks came home in Castaway and I gotta tell ya I agree with him a bit. Could you have Betty send me your email. Is your email secure? As in does your hubby have your password? Last thing I would want to do is get you in trouble with your wonderful husband. I dont even know him but I know he is wonderful as is mine. He saved you from Demonic creature. its hard to explain and Im sure you will agree this has nothing to do with your husband absolutely nothing. This about having never truly gotten over these people. It like you took all of them memories and thru them in a closet locked the door and walked away.
Aug 27 - 10PM
blueeyes
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texting!

The first few weeks of dating my husband we chatted on the phone until morning. He moved in within 3 months and we were married within a year. I've been married for 3 years and the only time he calls is if he took a lot of pain meds (high) or maybe he STOLE a cool blurtooth he wants to try out. Yup all I get is texts! I just had a baby (2months ago) I'm back to work so I call if husband is watching him....no answer...but I will get a cute picture of BOTH of them..???WTF? Daddy is all smiles in the picture, but for 2 hours I wanted to hear how my infant is doing! All this after he saw me crying the night before returning to work and said "babe how can I make it easier?" I said just please let me know how he is all day ok? He hugs and kisses and NOTHING but a picture! I wanted to cry!