Listen to IdealK9 below, she knows!
He does not love her because he does not know how to. He is scamming her and she will not want to hear anything you can say or show her. DON'T do it! It will only pull you further into his shit.
His shit STINKS!!
I've been where you are and I understand how hard it is to even breathe. Let this be your PROOF that is irrefutable that you are better off without him regardless of his recent hoovering attempts to keep you hooked.
Snooping into email is dangerous because we almost always see something that hurts. I have done it very few times and that was the case. It is a temptation better to deny ourselves.
Trust what you know about him now. It doesn't matter WHY you fell for him or can't stop caring at this point in recovery. That kind of thinking will just keep you stuck and turn your pain and anger onto yourself, when you are not the one who deserves it.
What you deserve now is to care for yourself and to heal. All that really matters is that you forgive yourself to be your own comfort with support from your friends and all of us here who care about your well being.
We've all made errors in judgment in our own way - that's okay. That's what brought us here - stay close and read, read, read.
((hugs))
Journey on...
First, calm down, he is "FUCKED UP" he is Fucking you up. Do not contact the OW it's her problem. She won't believe you anyway.
"He Loves her" No! He doesn't know how. You are what I was back in August! Yes, lesson 1 No contact, that means no text, no email ,no FB, whatever. Delete,delete,delete. Ignorance is bliss.
He is a no good evil human being. You can't fix this. You need to put yourself back together, I did it and I will help you do it too! Read every single thing you can about this disorder, this site will be your home for the next few months. Anything that comes to your mind ask us, anything! Do not contact this creature again! He is not your friend, lover, he is garbage.
All you can do is fix you. I want to hear you crack jokes and laugh, why should someone anyone hurt you like this? You will make mistakes along the way. We learn from mistakes. Be strong, NC ok? NC will save your life.
Oxox idealk
Do not contact the OW. She will not believe you, and you will make yourself look like a fool. Plus, he will tell her to ignore you and that you are crazy. Don't fall down to his level. I try not to search for anything because I could find it, but really don't want to see any of it.
this is my first post, although i've been reading everyday on here for quite a while. i don't have time to say anymore as i have to go out, but your last post about them being fucked up made me laugh so hard!!! everything you say is so spot on! i want to tell his wife of 24 years everything i have found out about him and other women, not just me. but you are right, it would do no good. gotta go for now. thanks for your great posts.
Hello, that's me short and sweet ( well sometimes ) welcome, stay close, my guess is his wife knows he's an ass. If she doesn't she's just plain stupid. No need to point it out.
Sorry you were Narced, you're in the right place. Looking forward to hearing another wonder narc story! NOT.
Be Strong
Idealk
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Journey on...
Sara
I agree...
idealk I LOVE YOU!!
Sadbutwiser