Still not leaving me alone...

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#1 Aug 23 - 5PM

driftingsister

Still not leaving me alone...

I haven't responded to him since August 4th remember.. is he getting very desperate now.. received a letter from him yesterday with my photos and letters I gave him when, it was shut with band aids by the way creepy ay, had the necklace that was his sister that he demanded back last week which my friend put in his letter box. Also these are the last few texts. (partial of an email I sent to my counsellor just then)

I received mail from him (enclosed with my letters I have given him when we were together) yesterday apologising for the way he has been over the last few weeks and that he hasn't been doing his steps, and that he won't be calling or texting, "I don't understand everything but I understand that that is okay, I just have to own my actions and respect your wishes". (I wish he would respect them and bugger off!!)

Since then, he has text another 20+ times.
The four most recent said...

22/08/11 1.24pm : Hey guys, court went well. 9 months supervision and community work. Can move forward now

22/08/11 8.30pm: I'm going back to Auckland now court has been done, working with my father again. Can I see you one last time and part on a good note Truong?

23/08/11 11.45am: This is the last text I'm sending. I fly back on September 8th. I would like to see you, have closure and end maybe as friends. 8 months for what? Your call.

23/08/11 8.22pm: Hey Truong, you free for a few minutes? I have your money, I want to leave with no bad feelings please.

I am 98% sure these are all lies, the thing I don't understand is if I were to meet him for a few minutes to "get the money" (which probably doesn't exist because he is on the dole and has no income) what would he do? Would he just go nutty at me? Ha. I am well over him, haven't heard anything more from the police but I think the harassment order is taking place :)

I guess I am just feeling beyond over it and thought he would have given up about the last 4 "Goodbye" texts ago. I haven't responded to anything since August 4th.. Oh he also has a new girlfriend already. Knowledge is power, I feel a bit safer but still weary because he is crazy!!

I am getting so sick of this!

#2 Aug 24 - 12AM

freaked

driftingsister, please stick to NC

dear driftingsister, if you have managed to Escape, please do not ever believe that creep's texts. they always LIE. They never return money owed to anyone.. and to us who were unfortunately married to them...it's like..'what money?!' Narcs are dangerous any way you look at it. I have run at least 15 different scenarios in my head..about what all I could have avoided doing so he would not have picked this OW.. Only to realise that OWs were there serially right from the start of our marriage...When Narc comes along, can OW be far behind??? ( cf Shelley or Keats i forget) Just mentally Ignore the fella. You will recover very soon if have managed to go NC. as you know...NC is our only protection. I am praying I come out of this marriage alive.. and then, I am certain I shall heal...even though right now I am now old and (f)ailing.

#3 Aug 23 - 9PM

adoette

driftingsister

I know it would be a pain, but can you change your phone number?

#4 Aug 24 - 4AM (Reply to #10)

driftingsister

I wish

I am still holding out. I have still been reading things from him, I have blocked him from most things now, no actually everything. PHEW. So it's my fault from now if I check them. I shouldn't have to. Once the police harassment letter goes through I will delete all the texts on my phone etc. I have got rid of all the emails etc... Just keeping things there for the log for the police. I shouldn't have to change my number once the police are involved because if he continues to contact me he will get in shit? I think that's how it works, hopefully the policeman sends me a copy of what he is sending to exN

#5 Aug 23 - 9PM

Layla

My very favorite text he wrote..........

22/08/11 1.24pm : Hey guys, court went well. 9 months supervision and community work. Can move forward now LOL! Are you sure we weren't sharing an abusive N??? Are you sure? OMG! Deja Vu Boulevard in Narcland!

#6 Aug 23 - 7PM

Sparrow

I love his 3rd text (wasn't

I love his 3rd text (wasn't that suppose to be his last? that's what he said right? LOL) this is my last text, its your call........REALLY? What a jackass! If she wanted to text you back she would have numb nuts! LOL Don't you love how they twist things up, and make several different attempts in hopes that one of them will be the right one? Drifting Sister, let me get this straight, he is a NARC for starters, and he is unemployed and I believe a criminal record and he is violent? Sounds like Prince Charming to me! Oh my God!!!!! Even if he wasn't a NARC, he deserves to be dumped! LOL Keep up the good work! Stay strong! Like he said, "it's your call" What a joke..... Oh and the money, let him keep it, he needs it more then you at this point. Maybe he can buy himself a new "memory box" for his new girlfriend and a box of band aids. What an artist! LOL Good luck!!!! I really don't even have to say "stay strong" can't imagine theres anything tempting there for you! Proud of you! keep up the good work!

#7 Aug 23 - 7PM (Reply to #7)

driftingsister

You reckon? I am in the

You reckon? I am in the middle of an e-mail to the cops as I haven't heard back yet, not sure if they have sent the letter or seen him. Wanted to tell them to just slip my bank account details to him - yeah he won't have the money. I'm a student and poor and was soo generous to him it makes me sick :( I thought he was a genuine person.. who was actually a victim in everything he said.. WHAT A BULLSHITTER. Do you think I should just not email the police that? Thats the only path I would take after sleeping on it... THANK you so much for that post, you have snapped me back into reality girl! love you!! I know... he has said goodbye this is the last time youll hear from me SOOO many times lol idiot

#8 Aug 23 - 6PM

Hunter

Well ...at least you know he

Well ...at least you know he still cares.. OMG!! WTF!! Talk about a psychopath. Good for you!! Another one bites the Dust! Hunter

#9 Aug 23 - 6PM

driftingsister

Yeah

HIs messages get diverted to another inbox, I am just sorting out the harrassment order with the police at the moment so if he continues harrasing me he will get in more trouble... He isn't backing away at all.. I have his number blocked also. He started calling of private numbers, I have made it so private numbers drop at the moment.... he's still going to keep trying. He's killing me here!

#10 Aug 23 - 6PM

Hereforme

Good you have a harassment order?

Can you block your phone so he is unable to call and text you? Just call he provider you have and they should tell you what to do or they can do it for you. I did this and it gives me peace! I don't have to be afraid when it rings because I know he can't get through! You can also block email with most email programs. Good that you are having nc! Hang in there Sister!

#11 Aug 24 - 4AM (Reply to #3)

driftingsister

yeah it's blocked but cos he

yeah it's blocked but cos he calls off private numbers I now reject ALL private number calls.... I blocked on all the email addresses he knows too! one of my providers doesnt block calls I don't think because he has left a voicemail on that... although he was ringing off a "private number" hmmm I'm working on it!! trying trying so hard!

#12 Aug 23 - 6PM

adoette

driftingsister

Can you block him or change your number?

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