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#1 Nov 20 - 9AM
smarternow
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Stepping Out...

I have a date tonight with someone I met on a dating site. It's been five (countem) 5 years since the ex narc. I have done the counseling, spent lots of time alone and with energy work to bring myself back up close to my former self.

I am protecting myself by not sharing a thing, not even my name. A week of chatting and a few pics are all I'm going on.

Armed with knowledge of projection and manipulation etc etc
etc. I hope to have a brief step into a positive connection.

Wish there was a blood test or some luma light deal I could bring with me to be sure I see any red flags etc.

Time to trust my instincts again and venture out into the big bad world.

Send me energy and strength and vision, sisters, I'm trying again...........

Nov 20 - 9AM
RubyWoo
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Hope you have fun, and

Hope you have fun, and hopefully you meet someone nice to hang out with! Do your hair, makeup, wear something nice and open yourself to be admired and wanted again! Worst thing that could happen, you don't like the guy and never date him again! ENJOY :)
Nov 20 - 9AM
uk lady
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May the force be with you Smarternow

But most of all enjoy. You deserve it after the wilderness. Let us know how it all went. Big hug for strength and enjoyment and being able to recognise red flags if necessary. Dee x
Nov 20 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
smarternow
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Volley-volley- no volley

He sent an email that he has to cancel our date. With narc ness on my mind I think he probably found something better to do. Or is his msg real? Oh well. Narc or not, his loss. I gain more time and will go to the event solo and maybe meet someone else nice. OR....super narc thing: he knows where I am going, will show up and stalk to see if i'm really there....see? the narc thinking... sick. like others have said, do we become one by thinking the way they do? sigh. Out for a walk. Out of the head and into the body is my best remedy for most things. thanks guys! His email: Sunday morning My first folk show at a community building, might have to wait. My daughter just called me and is having some issues with her house and has requested my presents. Me being the fix it guy. She is painting and rearranging her living room and needs a few outlets moved. She lives in another state and I don't know if I'll be back in time. Can you please give me a rain check on this. I do want to meet you, but as usual, life is interfering. I didn't notice the picture last night but saw the attachment this morning. Very cute. You have a beautiful smile...:) My apologies
Nov 20 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
Used
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smarternow

HE IS A LOSER LOSER LOSER...I DON'T BELIEVE ONE SINGLE THING HE HAS SAID, APART FROM CAN WE TAKE A RAINCHECK..... THAT IS NOT HOW YOU SPELL PRESENTS EITHER.... THE FUCKWIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
smarternow
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Not interesting email

that was the first misspelling and i guess his last mistake. raincheck with no suggestion of raincheck. and no signature. i started thinking, he's not interested in me....THEN realized THIS email is not very interesting to ME. haha!
Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #7)
Syren66 (not verified)
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Maybe I'm just bitter today,

Maybe I'm just bitter today, but my gut is telling me that he's married. First thing I thought of when you said he didn't close the email with his name.
Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
Used
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smarternow

I WOULD RATHER WATCH PAINT DRY, OH I JUST DID IN THIS EMAIL....YOU HAD A LUCKY ESCAPE, HE WOULD HAVE BORED YOU SILLY....
Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
nomoredenial
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You passed the test

You realized on the first email you werent interested rather than 5 cancelations beating yourself up wondering what you were doing wrong.