Statistics with them coming back!!!

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#1 Apr 27 - 3PM
rochkevin
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Statistics with them coming back!!!

OK, so my XN left me 18 monthes ago for someone else. Last spring 2010, he would leave his ex and come back to me and then go back to the other guy. This happened like 7 times.Well he did this again, after 90 days of N/C with me, and then he back back again to his ex after 2 weeks with me.This happened just this week.

So this is what i came up with and was wondering if any else has noticed this too. I kept records as to when he came back to and when he left again as to how many days he was there or here, what day of the week and where the full moon was. This is what i came up with.

Now again, this is just an average over the period of 7 monthes, 7 times going back and forth.

he stayed at my place an average of 10 days.
he would be at his partners/ex for an average of 24 days.
80% of the time him coming back to me was on sun/mon/or tues.
and 67% or 2/3 of the time it was within 3 days either way of the full moon.

Just wondering if anyone else has scene a pattern?

This roller coaster of a ride has ran out of gas.

N/C, N/C, N/C

Apr 28 - 6AM
deecbee
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Very interesting. The N I

Very interesting. The N I dealt with also had a pattern. Every spring, around the end of February/beginning of March, he’d start to distance himself and D&D. The entire summer he’d be in full-on ignore mode. Then, around mid-September, he’d start to hoover again. Out of the 12 years I knew him, this happened probably 5 times. The cycles were down to the WEEK, sometimes down the the exact day as the year before. I used to attribute it to some kind of odd reverse-seasonal depression. Very, very weird.
Apr 28 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
SoaperGirl
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How familiar does that sound?

My narc dropped me at the end of February, and took up with the new woman in early March this year. I wonder if anyone else has noticed a pattern. I don't know if my narc is following the same pattern, but I do know he repeats himself with each new woman. Every woman is the perfect woman for him until she disappoints him and all his exes are nuts. How familiar does that sound?
Apr 28 - 7PM (Reply to #6)
Arwen
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HILARIOUS! Of course they do

HILARIOUS! Of course they do this...mine lives on the shore so he gets a hard-on with the hundreds of girls in bikinis and he deals in boats, so there he is, this hunk of a narc with these water-nymphs gurgling over his arms and his boats and Jesus what the fuck does he need little me for then? LOL
Apr 28 - 7PM (Reply to #7)
deecbee
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*facepalm* God, I didn't

*facepalm* God, I didn't even think about it that way. Is it really that simple? They ARE basically just a bunch of grunting animals, I suppose that's all that it would take... warmer weather and vacationers. And yes, he lived in LA/Vegas when this would happen. Geez, what morons.
Apr 28 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
rainbow1
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Same here. My N is single all

Same here. My N is single all summer then wants a relationship when the cold sets in....

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Apr 28 - 2AM
CarolKittyGale (not verified)
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Just like D40 I am in total

Just like D40 I am in total awe of your math skills. You are obviously a very intelligent lady who is totally wasted on this guy. Delete...NC, NC NC all the way. I promise you if you stay away it gets better.
Apr 27 - 10PM
Deidre40
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I am sitting here in awe that

I am sitting here in awe that you have figured this out, mathematically! lol I stink at math! :=) I think they are very calculated. It's interesting you found a telltale pattern. I would highly recommend kicking this guy to the curb foreva!!! No more taking him back. Please...you deserve better. He has proven he has bad motives for you. This is not love. Love doesn't use. It gives. It sacrifices. It cares. It embraces. Nothing of what you wrote, suggests love from him. So, please find a way to be strong. And stay NC. {{{HUGS}}}
Apr 27 - 4PM
Hunter
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They cycle no doubt, nuts =

They cycle no doubt, nuts = nuts Exactly, delete,delete,delete Hunter