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Stalking by proxy?

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#1 Dec 28 - 1PM
hopeforbetter
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Stalking by proxy?

So he won't directly do it because he's on probation, so now his goons are doing it for him. Why? What's in it for them? These are the same guys he would send over with gifts and to fix thongs around the house when he was locked up. I'm ignoring it but the motive scares me.

Dec 29 - 3PM
Carolyn
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Men like that enjoy scaring

Men like that enjoy scaring women. Talk to someone about a good course of action. I am a retired investigator so I usually suggest talking to a private investigator. Jail folks like the 'fear factor'. Can you just not engage at all and go to neutral. don't permit anyone to go to your house, you can always talk to their probation officers. PO's have to take things seriously and they have the power to violate parole and probation a very scary thing for these boys. You have much more power in this situation than you think.
Dec 28 - 2PM
agnesmurphy17
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Proxy Abuse

In my state, third party contact is forbidden. It's in the boilerplate on a restraining order. Do you have an RO? Maybe you should get one if your do not already. Your N is on probation. If you feel he's doing third party contact, call his probation officer & find out if that's permitted. Also, let the probation officer know that you do not want that contact. Probation officer should set your N straight.
Dec 28 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
hopeforbetter
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Good advice and got it from

Good advice and got it from my best friend. I contacted the PO but he as out. Left a message though so I hope I'll hear tomorrow. In the meantime I have a large dog and a visiting cousin spending the night. This is just so...I don't have the words.
Dec 28 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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stalking

stalking and using proxies is PAR FOR THE COURSE for PATHOLOGICALS... they all do it... the proxies believe their bullsh*t... probably pathological themselves ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website