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#1 Sep 8 - 9PM

courtneyj

sometimes

I still cannot believe this happened. I am moving forward with my life I just can't believe that I was engaged a year ago and now nothing. Its irritating but I know things will work out. I know he was a narcasisstic scumbag and I will be much better without him. Its just hard at times. So much has changed in a year. That leaves me very hopeful for my year to come:)

#2 Sep 8 - 10PM

quietude (not verified)

ditto

Same here courtney, I was supposed to be a newlywed this past Spring. All plans came to a screeching halt, I had to totally rethink all things practical, and make some big changes. I am definitely hurting because of it, which makes healing all the more fun! :( BUT...Big bonus that keeps me going - no more dealing with the daily narcissistic madness! It's worth it.

#3 Sep 9 - 4AM (Reply to #9)

courtneyj

response

My Story: http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com I often wake up at night like right now and think I am such an idiot for not seeing this. I pushed for this relationship and for what? NOTHINGM. All I got was a broken-hearted and a hard lesson learned! I get so frustrated thinking about times were I went above and beyound. For example, valentines day a year ago. I don't cook but I decided to. I cooked a fabulous veal parm. I had a romantic evening planned that finshed with him being an hour late. Because he was probably seeing his other girlfriend now that I think about it. It makes me want to jump out of my skin!!! These are the types of thoughts that piss me off. My love was taken for granted. I just want to go up to him in times square knee him in the privates and slap him and say WTF? What sort of devil are you? On the bright side I am meeting with a guy tomorrow to sell my engagement ring. I am so hopeful that it sells. I want this out of my life.

My Story: http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com

#4 Sep 8 - 9PM

thisisnotfun

Yes, be glad you found out

Yes, be glad you found out now. You deserve so much better. We all do.. After reading some of the stories here, I'm glad I didn't move in with him.

#5 Sep 9 - 6AM (Reply to #2)

Scoop

There are few thing werse

There are few thing werse than being abused and abandoned .To be treated with such low value in a seemingly fair world rocks your world .I have struggled with this and have blamed myself for just being "rubbish" it is a constant fight to remember who i am and who i was before the tosser came along . Ok i wasnt over confident but i was doing ok , i was alright . I had a life and good friends , i didnt set the world on fire but it was stable , i was stable and if anything i was waiting for the right man to come along , i feel it wasnt too much to ask , a nice guy a nice house and a nice life . I do expect to have that but i wasted a whole year on this looser and somewhere along the line his thoughts became mine , his opinion of me was how i eventualy saw my self . and it was a wrong opinion and its hard to break out of that. Time is the key in into 12 weeks no contact ,wate a minute thats 3 months !!!! wow Peru x

#6 Sep 9 - 7AM (Reply to #3)

dolce (not verified)

In and out of belief

I tend to go in and out of belief about this guy. I hope its normal. For a few days I see all the bad and admit I was with a man with very serious problems. Then for a moment I say "was it really that bad?". It's so weird but I think it's part of the acceptance process. I know what I know. How bad it was. How painful. I will never go back. But the way the mind heals is interesting.

#7 Sep 9 - 8AM (Reply to #4)

courtneyj

Healing

My Story: http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com Dolce that is a very good point. The way the mind heals is very interesting. Though I have my moments, I know that I am in a much better place than I was a few months ago. I know that I never want to be with him again. The thought of it makes me sick. It was that bad. THE PAIN WAS THAT AWFUL for me at least. I know that normal people do not behave that way. Normal people have regard for life. I hate this man for what he has done. As times though, I question if I hate myself equally as much for putting up with it, again, for what? NOTHING. I LOVED HIM AND HE DIDNT LOVE ME BACK. I learned a hard lesson.

My Story: http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com

#8 Sep 9 - 10AM (Reply to #5)

NanC (not verified)

My pride is killing me. It

My pride is killing me. It really gets to me that he used me & my kids, emotionally & financially! He ruined my credit. I used to go buy a new vehicle in my name & now, I can't even buy an ice cream cone without a cosigner! After he was already with his new gf, he called (first being suicidal!) & then to ask me if i would cosign for him to get a new truck! That man has some nerve! (My bro told me i should have asked him why he needed a truck if he was going to die anyway!!!) Ha!ha!

#9 Sep 9 - 1PM (Reply to #7)

Barbara (not verified)

get a lawyer!!

make sure a lawyer goes after him for CHILD SUPPORT and all the money he owes you! Go to legal aid if you have to. http://www.womenslaw.org Make sure the Child Support is paid by him to the State and then the State PAYS YOU. If you get money from him directly he will find a way to screw you or not pay. If he has to pay the State fund then if he defaults - the State throws his sorry ass in jail. Get a lawyer involved NOW!!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck

#10 Sep 9 - 1PM (Reply to #6)

Fawn

Co-Sign

My ex-N also asked me to co-sign on a car for him last year. He also asked me to re-finance the house he was living in TWICE! But he is the one who wanted the divorce! Crazy a** behavior! He just wanted out from the financial burden. They can't stand on their own two feet and face reality, EVER!!

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