Something I would like to address

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#1 Aug 18 - 6PM
ShaynasMommy
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Something I would like to address

This is going to be short, b/c I have to leave for home, but the thing I have read over and over on this board is that a lot of ladies lament over the fact that they go on to their "successful" lives.

They are not as successful as they make themselves out to be. And if you call being emotionally stunted and having to pull fast ones all the time on their prey successful, then I will have to look that one up again in the dictionary.

Really, think about it. If you knew or dated an N doctor, anybody who really knows him would tell you he sucks at golf and barely passed med school with a C average. But the N doctor will act as if he is GOD himself.

Aug 19 - 5PM
Susan32
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Where's that "success"?

My ex-Psych professor was a legend in his own mind... despite the fact it took him SEVEN YEARS to get a master's degree. His colleague who knew him from graduate school always looked mortified to be in his presence. My ex-P would weave stories about writing books, European vacations... and yes, his legendary Wittgenstein book that would take a decade to write with 10 chapters... that was supposed to have been published back when the class of 2010 were freshmen. Needless to say, it has NOT happened. Thank goodness he doesn't have any "success" to rub in my face. "I'm not that smart a philosopher"-quoting the Ex-P, and Understatement of the Century
Aug 19 - 1PM
NinjaGirl
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"If you knew or dated an N

"If you knew or dated an N doctor, anybody who really knows him would tell you he sucks at golf and barely passed med school with a C average." LOL So true. My ex always made himself look better than he actually was in the countless stories he told about himself.
Aug 19 - 12PM
hopefuljms
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It is interesting, after my

It is interesting, after my exN boyfriend dumped me, everyone told me that I was the only one that liked him and that they all put up with him because of me (we worked for the same company). He has all the trappings of success; house, boat, expensive cars... but he has also had 7 jobs in the 10 years that I have known him. He now has his own company because no one in the industry will hire him. He just married the other OW and his son didn't attend the wedding. Sounds like a real catch to me. Boy was I blind! I do feel sorry for his ex-wife. See I was smart enough not to marry him after he asked me but she has to still deal with his crap because they have children together.
Aug 19 - 2AM
broken23
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lol yeah i was with a N

lol yeah i was with a N doctor, and that is one of the things that eats away at me, at how sucessful he is and is going to be...but you are right, i have lived with him long enough to know he doesnt do it for the love of the profession or helping people, but rather to inflate his ego and feel important, and hes lazy as hell, getting everyone to do all the work and trying to take the credit. nonetheless from the outside its all sucess and admiration from everyone around him.
Aug 18 - 10PM
Kelly
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LOL

They are always successful - They can't really fail can they? They are always the best, the smartest, the most knowledgeable, the most self-sacrificing . . no one can ever truly amount to their greatness . . .
Aug 18 - 7PM
cluelessuntilnow
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Made me laugh

Yes from the outside they may look successful. But successful in my book is an honest marriage, no secrets, healthy children, etc... My xN may have a huge house and the picture perfect life but he is overextended and over-leveraged in every way, has more skeletons than one can count, he is underneath it all pretty lazy, barely graduated college, and no trust in his household, his kids exhibit extreme stress and emotional issues, his wife trusts him so little the first thing she does in the morning is check his phone for texts and messages. If you saw it from the outside you would think "beautiful life". All it takes is a few moments to figure out it is a thin veneer. I used to be so angry about what I perceived as him having this great life after what he did, and then I realized the pretty picture is all a lie. And I am pretty sure he sucks at golf. ;-)
Aug 19 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
helldweller
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success

Yeah, mine was sent away to a law school in Michigan that is known as the place for political families' drop outs--a place where they get pushed through and sent back to Chicago to become politicians and judges. It used to boggle my mind wondering what this guy would have been like if he hadn't been from this moneyed, political family. What would he have done? Would he be interested in anything? Able to do anything? What sort of job would he have had? I cannot imagine him doing anything. He doesnn't even want to move up from associate judgship because he would have to work too much and there would be too much pressure--he said, that, not me. I wonder . . . if he hadn't been from this family, would he still be a narc? What would he have been like if he wasn't a narc?