Something happened today......

Good morning everyone, I hope you are all doing well.

I received an email from the Narc this morning. I don't know how it got through the email filter I set up. I guess I'll have to fix that. Anyways the email reminded me of this story:

My Narc and I never lived together. THANK GAWD!

Last year around this time it was school shopping time. I didn't have the money to buy shoes for my son (I support me and my son and pay the mortgage etc. all by my self I receive NO support of any kind). My Narc insisted on taking my son shopping for shoes for school. I told my Narc that I appreciated the gesture but would wait until next payday and buy the shoes then! So, one day while I was at work I received a text message that he had picked up my 14 year old son from home (without my permission) and was now at the mall buying him the shoes. That pissed me off because I had been trying to reach my son at home and was becoming frantic also I had specifically asked him to NOT buy the shoes!!! I am not an ungrateful bitch. Read on and find out why I didn't want him to spend the money.

Obviously I had no control over this shopping episode and was stuck with the fact that he had bought 2 pairs of high end shoes for my son which cost $250!!! On my next payday I tried to give him the cash for the shoes (which I couldn't afford) but he out right refused to take it.

Of course wouldn't you know when it came time for my next round of D&D (trust me there were many)he sent me a text message and dumped me because he stated that I use him for money and that I am a gold digger. He stated that I am a terrible mother who can't even provide shoes for her son. He then told me I owed him the money for the shoes! Then sent me a bill for the shoes and every meal he had ever bought, gas he purchased etc. and threatened to get a lawyer to get the money back from me. I was devastated! I kid you not, my son was off for the weekend visiting his dad and I was alone in my house..I nearly hung myself out of the grief of letting my son down, being a bad mom etc. Having the "love of my life" leave me again..I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. Why I was such a fuck up. I believed the horrible things this man said to me. He nearly killed me! Sigh....

...here's the funny part and what prompted me to write down this story..I received an email from him this morning, bear in mind I haven't seen my Narc in almost 6 weeks. Here is what it said: "Hi M, I'm taking my oldest school shopping in the States. Should I check for shoes for your son"?

A few weeks ago this email would have had me thinking, awww he really does care! How sweet! He really does love me! BARF BARF BARF!

Now, reading this email I see the lunatic that he is, the utter evil conniving, manipulative FUCKTARD that he is. I don't feel the "love" anymore I feel STRONG! What I really want to do is go over to his house and kick the living shit out of him. Instead, I will just sit here relieved that I am no longer caught in his web. I smile because NOW I HAVE THE UPPER HAND! NO contact my dears...NO CONTACT it's the only way. Do not respond to them..ever! Even to tell them to fuck off..yell it out loud in your room, write it down on paper...but whatever you do..DO NOT RESPOND.

Phew...thanks for reading.