I have a question for everyone.....Did your Narc keep his eyes closed during sex??? Mine did and it bothered me but I never said anything about it.....just wondered if anyone had the same experience.
YES HE DID, Always looked like he was concentrating really hard lolI asked him one time why he always looked like he was concentrating lol he got mad lol, he just laid there, I had to do all the work and he NEVER made a noise!
Actually both of mine had to have the lights on and watch me like I was on display to perform.....
the exboyfriend Narc would love to position us both in front of a mirror so he could also watch himself....it was either that or he would look at me, but with different eyes (if that makes any sense) he had a look about him as if he was seeing into me....very creepy!!!!
They are just f'd up......period!!!!!!!!!!!!
(Im getting pissed thinking about it)
Really? I actually find the opposite. I've always felt, and I may be totally wrong about this that if a man keeps his eyes open the whole time its because hes getting off on watching the act rather than participating in it and feeling it. Sort of like hes watching porn. To me that is where I would feel objectified, if I was being watched the whole time.
Mine always kept his eyes closed. It bothered me as well. There was absolutely no intimate connection at all. Right down to the closed eyes and the rolling over and going to sleep with his back to me. My ex husband didn't do that however, complete opposite.
Narc #2 use to say to me on the phone, I can't wait to hold you in bed. I finally said "Hold me? When do you do that?" He insisted that he did and than finally admitted he didn't but not before saying "our big toes always touched"
I guess I was suppose to feel the love..............I didn't. But stayed anyway. I shake my head in wonderment looking back and ask myself "Who was that girl?" lol
no but it makes sense with the whole objectification thing. mine rarely looked at me. RARELY. flipped me over, or looked away or tilted his head... so... ya i think thats a common theme w t disordered.
That's weird because I was just talking to my sister about this yesterday. Mine always covered his face with the pillow when I was doing an oral act on him ( if you know what I mean...BJ) I read somewhere that in a NARC's childhood they may have been sexually molested by their mother's. He has a strange relationship with her as is, but I was wondering if she did that to him when he was younger & just didn't want to see me do it to him. Does that make sense???
or he did cover his face while she was doing it to him. maybe even on her wishes (it was easier for her too)...and now its become a pattern.
thats really messed up. i was reading about that as well. monster- mothers like that exist.
YES HE DID, Always looked
mine liked to look at me.
Actually both of mine had to
Really? I actually find the
Mine always kept his eyes
No, quite the opposite, he
no but it makes sense with
Eyes Closed
or he did cover his face