I finally figured out that my Ex N has anti-social personality disorder (APD), making him a sociopath. This realization has furthered my healing as now I know what I was dealing with and can see him for what he is.
He was a juvenile delinquent that barely graduated from high school. He was in fights all the time, skipped school, and not well thought of. He felt entitled to things without working. His own family told me this.
Fast forward to when he started his business during his 20's. He frequently broke the law by hiring illegal aliens, evaded the IRS by refusing to pay taxes and then his business partner mysteriously dies?!!! He was sued for violating prevailing wage laws and lost his business.
He has multiple pending court cases against him now for building code violations, fire code violations, and unpaid taxes, foreclosure, etc. I once found an entire box at his house filled with unopened letters from the bank and unopened certified letters (which were warrants for his arrest). I ran his credit and it came back with a zero (I didn't know that was possible). He has no credit cards and buys everything with cash. He spends money like it's water in order to impress others. I received lavish gifts, trips, and dinners. I've talked to his ex-wife and she said that he would spend so much money trying to impress others that they didn't have enough money to pay their bills.
Add in the fact that he is a sex addict that trolls the internet dating sites for new victims. I met him on match.com. I found out that when he travels for work, he has match.com sites for all of the cities. His ex-wife told me that she found cards for escort services. I found out all of this on my own through snooping, court records and the internet.
Why was I the perfect target? I'm a CPA with perfect credit and I'm very responsible. He was looking for me to be the anchor in his life and to pick up the pieces. Can you imagine what would have happened if I had married him? I can't thank God enough for giving me wisdom and showing me what kind of person he is. I was there to make him look good and take care of his needs. To give him the appearance of a normal life.
Below is a video on sociopaths.