SO Happy to be the EX-Girlfriend!

I am NOT the Narcissists Girlfriend, I am the EX-Girlfriend (yaaaaaay me!)...which, believe me is a much better position to be in. To all the little sweet newbies signing up, doing their reading and posting here who feel sad, devastated, angry & wounded and having a really rough time. I was there in that place too like all of us who find our way here (and it took quite a while to sort thru all the cognitive dissonance & reality of who/what he is and focus on fixing myself)...and now I am HERE at point 'B' (as in so much more confident and happier again) And one day you will be too!

I am so grateful for Lisa and the MODS here, and for this website and forum. Lisa is a pioneer and someone who has truly made a difference in thousands of lives by now!

I have been completely NC for nearly 6 months now, and beginning to remember who I am and be happy. It is such a good feeling. At one point I felt so lost, like everyone who tangles with a Narc or PD does. I thought I would never feel whole or happy again, but slowly over time I have been healing & really enjoying life again. Things are falling into place in a very good way...and if you stay NC and keep putting one foot in front of the other (even if you think you can't...just DO it!)on your path forward...YOU will eventually heal and get on with your life in a better way too.

I used to think it was trite when others said that we had learned a 'valuable lesson', having had a relationship with a Narc or PD personality. I resented the lesson. I hated it and wished I NEVER went through this...but NOW I see the lesson...it had more to do with ME than HIM...and I learned all the RED FLAGS so well...My life and circle of friends and family is now like Fort Knox when it comes to being infiltrated by a Narc or PD again. I love living in a happy no Narc/ NO drama zone!

I am not bothered by him having OW. (kinda got used to it while we were living together ;-) But kinda DO feel good about the fact that his latest new GF got away after just a few months! Good for her!

And I recently dodged a bullet when it came to dating someone new...within 2 weeks I spotted some major Red Flags and blocked him out of my life right away! Didn't matter how attractive he was or all the other good stuff. I am perfectly content and happy to be alone without a man in my life and spend time with family & friends. If someone comes along who is healthy I will be able to tell next time...and maybe I will include him in my life...if he is interested too of course :-)...OR maybe I will be a Spinster forevermore from now on...and I am actually cool with that...HAHA! Yaaaaay! I would not have seen the Red Flags or would have ignored them if I hadn't had this very painful experience, which caused me to have to change MYSELF and learn to set boundaries & say NO! NO PD's, POS, Narcs or Psychopaths allowed! Making better choices and focusing on my own happiness from now on! Just sending some encouragement that you will get there too!

Take back your power and focus on YOU. NC all the way!

XO from The Narcissists EX-Girlfriend

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