So disappointed

Four months after a horrible breakup with a totally disordered Narc, I began seeing a very sweet, gentle man. I knew he had an old girlfriend, who he shares a dog with, but he told me that they are now just friends. He said they made the decision to be friends four years ago. I think the decision was probably hers.

We clicked immediately, he started seeing me at my house a couple of nights per week. We never went out, with the exception of the night we actually met, then lunch on my birthday in November. Otherwise, it was a very warm relationship, but I wondered why we never went "out." Fortunately, I have been busy going to school, looking for employment, etc, so I had a lot on my plate.

One of the local radio stations he has an affiliation with had a Christmas event last night. He didn't mention it to me. Normally we chat on FB at night and have very warm conversations. Well, last night, since I knew he would be at the event (I saw his RSVP on FB,) I went to bed early, especially since I was a little miffed that he saw no need to invite me. Or even mention it to me.

Well, imagine how surprised I was when a participant put up pics from last night and there were pictures of him with his "ex-girlfriend." The caption gave his name and said he was with his "sexy girlfriend." I was sick. She is much younger than I am and looks like Meg Ryan when she starred in You've Got Mail. I'm 55, he's 62 (wealthy) and I would guess she is around 40. He invited her, never even told me. He goes out every night to trivia competitions, never invites me. Or he is at Hooter's watching sports. He's extremely popular, locally well-known and loved. I'm just here for him 2 nights per week for TV, then intimacy.

I ended our "situation" late this afternoon with an explanation about seeing the picture. He never even offered an explanation, just said he would respect my wishes.

I feel like the "affair" woman for men who really want other women for real relationships. I'm just so disappointed in him. He seemed genuinely nice and concerned and offered encouragement while I was trying to finish up classes and during my job search. I know I keep saying it, but I'm just so disappointed. I am in therapy, due to the verbal abuse and lies I endured with the disordered Narc. This man is well aware what I have been through. Right now I feel like a piece of meat, and I guess I'm lucky that I saw that damned picture of the two of them. I feel like I was duped for sex. Not a good feeling.