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So confusing!

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#1 Jul 6 - 8PM
Shareebles
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So confusing!

We stopped talking for a month or so,
then the other night he texted me out of the blue at 1AM!!!
And guess what he said???

"Hi."

I know he doesnt want me back as his girlfriend, and i doubt he ever will. But what does this mean?

I mean, he said once he cared and hed always be my friend...but if Im going to continue to be emotionally abused, I cant handle that.

Jul 6 - 8PM
dazed
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It's a test

He just is seeing if you'll respond but not committing any thing of substance. Even if it were a paragraph it would not be of substance. I don't trust anything an N says. It is all self-serving. Nothing is said or done on your behalf. Nothing
Jul 6 - 9PM (Reply to #13)
Shareebles
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I think he always wants to

I think he always wants to have me some how. after he broke up with me, immediately said like, dont talk to me. and then he goes, we'll still catch up and hang out. Arrghhhh i hate it. I wish i didnt want him at all. At least things are making more sense now. At least ive realised the kind of person he is. I think hes moving interstate soon so that will be a relief, and ill be able to move on with my life and actually achieve some things, rather than only focusing on his career.
Jul 6 - 8PM
adoette
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Shareebles

Oh, yes. The famous "hi" text. This has been discussed on this forum before. So many of our narcopaths have done that famous move (taken straight out of their handbook). Oh, and the texting at 1AM is classic, too. Wait, he wants to be friends? Riiiiiiiight. Of course he does. Also a typical narcopath request (that can NEVER work). He wants to keep you on the back burner for future supply. He wants a reaction out of you. I'm hoping you didn't respond, but I recommend blocking his number. It will give you further peace of mind. So, what did that mean? Nothing. Except he wants what he wants how he wants it and when he wants it. What a narc. All this to say, it's not confusing. It's classic.
Jul 6 - 9PM (Reply to #10)
strivingforhealing (not verified)
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the short short emails

like "Hi" or after I would write a thoughtful paragraph of deep thought and emotion, he would return it with 3-5 words. withholding is power to them. and ya know, when you really take that in- they are so so small. so pathetic that they have to use this tool to make themselves feel big. such tiny little pathetic men
Jul 6 - 9PM (Reply to #11)
Shareebles
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Yeah, i understand. When we

Yeah, i understand. When we were together, he witheld a lot. "that romantic lovey dovey stuff isnt me." I think it is, or it used to be. but after a traumatic event it crushed him, and made him question his 'manhood.' And now he has to build it back up by witholding, making me chase him for affection. Gosh hes such a loser. I wish I never wasted my time. So many bad feelings now swirling around and i dont know what to do with them.
Jul 6 - 8PM (Reply to #9)
Hunter
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Adoette

Yup, You covered it. "SCRAMBLED EGGS" You should drop everything because he says Hi at 1am. Hunter
Jul 6 - 8PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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I think it says

This is the very least amount of effort I can make yo see if Shareebles is willing to be with me again. And if she is based on this. She is perfect for me. I hope you didn't answer.
Jul 6 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Shareebles
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Yeaahhhhhh I

Yeaahhhhhh I answered. with "It's 1am?!" and he said "I dont do that whole sleep business" then we engaged in a small conversation...he asked how i was and i said good. then, get this, he said "really reeeeeallllyyyy??" and I was like "yes. I am fine" and he was like "ohh thats good" (let me know if u want me to continue with this conversation.......)
Jul 6 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
Shareebles
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Even in this short little

Even in this short little conversation i had with him over text, he still managed to discard my feelings, and make me feel small. Asshole.
Jul 6 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
ruby01 (not verified)
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He doesn't sleep

Cause he's a vampire.
Jul 6 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
adoette
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ruby01

good one, ruby!
Jul 6 - 8PM (Reply to #5)
Shareebles
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"I dont sleep"

But the whole "i dont do this sleep business" is just a way of sounding cool, and covering up that he was embarrassed about actually thinking about me, and waking me up with a message.
Jul 6 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
Shareebles
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Maybe he'd been drinking? he

Maybe he'd been drinking? he seems to go through phases where he sometimes will go to bed early alllll the time and then other times hell stay up all night playing COD or sitting on ebay or playing guitar...or drinking. I heard hes giving up drinking. but i guess weve all heard that one before...