I smoke, but not a lot. Having given up the Narc this is the only sinful habit I indulge in and I intend to hang onto it. My ex had been a chain smoker before and given up, since it interfered with the bicycle racing both of us do. Just shows what will-power they are capable of.
Maybe we should quit smoking along with the narcs......a two for one deal? LOL We can supposrt eachother during NC and NS. Kill 2 birds with one stone! Anyone interested?
the N said it was the only thing that was "wrong" with me, cos he worried about my health LOL...
not worrying about the huge number of other health issues like STDs and HIV that I could have caught from him then....
yep, iam a smoker..but a controlled one...lol if there is such a thing...5/10 aday....narc hated smokers...well he wouldnt wouldnt he ?....he used to smoke and gave up...so everyone one else has too...he doesnt know that when he was away from me...he smoked when he was drinking...one of his little lowlife pals told me...wow..what double standards , but he had hundreds of DOUBLE STANDARDS... ALL IN HIS FAVOR OF COURSE.
oh, double standards, of course. We are the pawns in their dangerous games, They make the rules, change the rules, bend the rules, then don't een play by the rules. The only thing that stops the cycle is no contact, and if they surprise u s with a phone or personal or email attack, no response. Not one word back, that is the solution. How many times have I told the n to leave me alone, jsut to get a text or voicemail soon after telling me to leave her alone, they even mirror that strategy, but it's just another game to them. When we are really done playing, their attempts at contact have no effect, that is freedom.
I was for a few years. N smoked cigars socially. I had smoked for a month or two in college and picked it back up. More as something to do, since I was sitting in a cloud of stinky cigar smoke, than anything else. It was just part of life with him, although I kept it essentially social and never let myself really like it.
I smoked a lot during the last D&D when I was pretty much on the Mary-Kate Olsen Diet of cigarettes and coffee! Then I decided to start running. To me, the two are mutually exclusive and I make sure to keep it that way in my head. It keeps me away from them.
I was quit for 3 years...and then I met the N. and started up again.
He was a smoker, and I am sure a combination of being around him smoking, and simply the anxiety of being around him in general...led to my relapse. That, and him triggering the source of my self-esteem issues.
Cigarettes are bad for you...at least those come with a warning label on them.
Ns should come with a warning label on them too!
Fraid so!
I'm slowly cutting out all toxic things I had in my life that developed because of the N.
So far I've changed my diet, exercise plan and given up drinking. Smoking is the last thing on my list....not ready for that one yet!
then count me in. Although I have now cut WAY back (down to three or four a day versus 10 or 12) with the aid of an E CIG. If you're talking the "other", I should have started the day i met my narc, and just played Ziggy Marley through the whole shebang:)
Redhead, that is what prompted me to ask! I found it interesting and decided to post the question. To get a feel for the general consensus. Turns out my suspicions were correct. There is a large percenatge of us who are smokers.
I have a great idea............if anyone is interested......maybe as we are supporting one another with NC, we can possibly attempt NS (no smoking) when we are ready to quit?!
Anyone else interested?
yep
Ew!
only sinful habit
Maybe we should quit smoking
yes
yep, iam a smoker..but a
A narc with standards...
Used to be
smoking
Shhhhh
Fraid so! I'm slowly cutting
I don't smoke. 8-)
Me too
If you're talking cigarettes
LML
In your earlier post, I
Redhead, that is what
yep