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#1 Jun 17 - 12PM
Hearts544
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She's Like the Wind

okay friends i need a bit of help.

i have posted on here several times and gone thru the process of have break time with the N and then at this point where thinking enough time would have gone by that i could have at least responded. i have come a very long way from the old girl that i was with this particular N. So i will not let him take that again. BUT. he did contact me and sent a link to a song - She's Like the Wind you know by Patrick Swayze - have you ever listened to the lyrics of that song, of course all that was said with that was this song reminds me of you and i hope everything is ok. I sat on it for a bit, read the lyrics, listened to the song. Dont get anything but mixed signals from it. Is he saying im like the wind where i come and go, because that is so far from the truth, if he is sending it to me because the lyrics state out of my league, cant look her in the eye etc etc than he hit the nail on the head. either way it has completely mind jumbled me. on top of that i did respond, just saying thank you i kept away from any depth with the sending of the song, just stating that it was from my favorite movie- thanked him for acknowledging my family. AND GUESS WHAT... i still have not heard from him??? What gives? Why in the world do they do this? It makes us feel like crap- is that why they do it? to just get a kick out of knowing that me this awesome girl cares so much about them and he can toy with me? Any advice would be helpful as today has been pretty rough.
Thank you in advance.

Jun 17 - 3PM
girlsinger
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umm..is he the composer?

Hi, I know it sucks... hey just wondering..did he actually write that song? I'll wait... ok I didnt think so do you know why? because Narc's dont have any original idea's the very best they can do is twist something around that someone else took the time and sweat to construct get it? to 'create" truly create a piece of "original"art or in this case ..."original" music takes the ability to"empethize", you gotta 'feel" so on thier BEST DAY THEY ARE A "GENUINE COPY OF A FAKE" thats my experience, I have worked with some of the most amazing musicans there is a difference between the "mechanical" and the truly "gifted" Once at very formal, gig I was asked by the wealth party giver if I wouldnt mind singing "happy Birthday" to his wife I answered "Of course, I'd be honored" I turned to the Orchestra and said "Ok guys....happy birthday in C (gospel style) one of the violin players from the PILHARMONIC! he whispered to me said "do you have the music?" ( I thought Id never stop laughting.. ever ..in life..so I said "its cool, lay out for this one" in other words..he "looked" like he was one of the "best" he was in the company of the "best" but when it came down to it he needed the music to "happy B-Day"! why?..because, the notes are just that..notes if he was not a Narc, he could have figured it out why because, playing his instrument for so many years would have meant something by now..right? he couldnt even 'fake' happy B-day..imagine that Im sorry but those lyrics were not written about you thier 'specialty" is leaving people twisting in the wind hence that title be blessed k
Jun 17 - 1PM
Hunter
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Geeze

"scramled Eggs" Projection at work or simply insanity! Delete,delete,delete Hunter
Jun 17 - 1PM
Done sourcing
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ditto

He is sick, he is disordered, any contact by you gives him something. The rules change, borders bend, boudaries are always crossed...you know what will make you well! Chris
Jun 17 - 12PM
spinning
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Hearts, save yourself

more confusion and chaos. Hit the delete button. If you must read, do not respond. Your response is supply. He knows your still on the hook, putting up with his bad behavior, acknowledging his sorry, disordered ass. No contact is the way to peace of mind. This guy sounds like a real pro when it comes to creating CD for you. He knows what works, obviously. Make it STOP NOW. NO MORE. Who cares what he sends you and what message he's trying to convey. THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU NOW! And your message is I WILL NOT TOLERATE BEING TREATED POORLY BY A MANIPULATOR ANY LONGER. I REJECT CHAOS AND CONFUSION. I NO LONGER PLAY A ROLE IN THIS DRAMA. THE CURTAINS ARE CLOSED, I'M OFF THE STAGE. This is what you will convey by NOT RESPONDING. Please just try it. You'll be amazed at how good you begin to feel gaining your power back, no longer giving it away to someone who obviously doesn't care enough to exert a little effort to mean what he says and say what he means. As Hunter would say, IT'S ALL SCRAMBLED EGGS IN THEIR WORLD. And frankly, breakfast is over-rated!!! A big hug to you, dearheart. You can do it. I know you can and you'll be so glad you did. Peace to you and all who stop here from, (totally NOT) spinning. I REFUSE TO. NOT AN OPTION. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WASTE ANOTHER MOMENT ON A DISORDERED PSYCHO FREAK ILLUSION.

spinning

Jun 17 - 12PM
wacaet
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honestly, my advice is delete

honestly, my advice is delete & ignore why even go there again? to fully heal from this NC is the only way they don't change, they don't wake up and realize how horrible they've been and that you really are the one they can't because they don't feel human emotions like we do by replying you open yourself up for more hurt who needs that?